Intuition Vs. Ego

0:10 Hello, I'm Kimberly and I'm Laura and today we're talking about intuition versus ego and Before we get started. I just wanted to say a little shout out like we didn't do a podcast last week And we apologize for that. We had our family Pat passed away. So it was quite a rough week So we apologize for not being on the ball. We're hoping forward moving forward we're gonna bank some of these and and this won't happen again, but Always grateful for everybody listening and we not something we wanted to do. So yeah, thank you so much for being patient with us I just could not wrap my head around last week. I'm getting on to do a podcast. So But we do we we loved our Piper. Yes. So I love her. Yeah, we love her very much So yeah, so moving on to the topic today intuition versus ego and we We talked about this the other day and thought well, I said, oh boy, I'd love to do that one because It's it's so all-encompassing. There's so much to it You know, we can go down so many paths with this topic But for me to keep it real simple in the moment for me intuition is always when you calm the mind and you feel solid and grounded and

1:30 You're in a place where you can be honest with yourself Then then the answers show up and they're they're not hard. It's not complicated. It's not it's not You know, but it's the same intuition that I get when I go You need to get up and go for a walk if your body's not moving It's you know, not working right and there's those are all little intuitive things. Don't eat that It's not gonna it's gonna flurry up or whatever, right? But you know our intuition is that inner guidance. It's that inner voice that knows The truth. Yeah, it's the one you can't lie to, you know, this is probably one of the most frustrating Activities the most frustrating Challenges when you're trying to develop your intuition Because a lot of people we begin With our human mind and we begin with using our human mind and we think that you know We have a hard time deciphering our own thoughts from our intuitive feelings and impressions and You know, we're we are human and we are here to be human and so sometimes it's hard because Things are happening in your life and you're trying to you know navigate it and pay attention and you know If you've already

2:46 Decided that you're gonna develop your spiritual side and want to be more connected to that Then you're trying to hear those Core Central messages, you know the messages that come from a calm still place But your human mind still wants to take over and analyze everything And I mean analyze the crap out of stuff and cut it all up into little pieces and then try to put it back together And then second guess it and you know, so The challenge of opening up to Universal wisdom, you know or source energy It can be really hard for people because they've been so accustomed to listening to their human mind And so I see this all the time I you know Kim and I are running businesses and making a living doing something that people only You know aspire to do like they they have really struggled with how to get this going and So a lot of times people are asking us advice like how did you how did you begin your your spiritual business?

3:48 Like how did you make it successful and it's really so different than a human process like then a merely human process, I'll say and That's where this intuition ego kind of overlaps into everything and You know, we need ego like I think ego is important in many of our Activities like many of our the events in our life like we need it But when you you don't need it when you're trying to co-create with the universe And the universe is trying to guide you and help you on a path We definitely need ego sometimes dealing with other people, you know, well, I think it's important to you know I've always been a very confident person. Yeah To the point where I didn't even realize how truly confident I was but I because of the life I lived as a child and you know when you're When you when you have everything and you get everything given to you and stuff you have a different outlook but when you had to struggle and work hard and Go through a lot of really hard things and some people have lost in their life and some people don't so I think when you experience a lot of loss a lot of struggle a lot of it's a lot of life and

5:05 No judgment because I'm really grateful for mine because I've had a lot of crazy struggles in life but they've all taught me something and the thing with For me ego is a really tricky thing because you need to love yourself Enough but not have an ego where you think you're better than anybody else, right? So there is this there's this really fine I'll call it a sweet spot where and we all get taken off path like there's times when I get wrapped up in other People's energy because that's all I see is certain people Sometimes and then I get wrapped up in that energy and then I start feeling overwhelmed and I go whoa This isn't mine This is somebody else's this is their perception. This is their path. This is their experience. It isn't mine Yeah, so I've I think I've learned from a very young age Because my best friend back then when I was little I would have called it God now I call it universal consciousness, but I always knew I was connected to something bigger than myself So I always had a faith in something that you couldn't see So that's another thing with ego and intuition is intuition is trusting the things you can't see but you know Yeah Yeah, and the thing is when you are like you've experienced so many things that are on the side of what you don't want

6:25 Or what you don't like You become very attuned it almost becomes part of your protection it becomes part of your The way that you conduct yourself From a very base level it becomes part of your survival to actually look for the things that make you feel good and That support you and that are safe and healthy and so like Your life experience and the things that you've experienced growing up kind of it can push people either way Mm-hmm, but it pushed you towards really wanting better for yourself and working towards that And so then you start to recognize the things that support you the things that feel safe and you reinforce those Things because you follow them and then it keeps happening because the universe keeps giving you more You know of what you've paid attention to and what you're reinforcing and So now like in this intuition versus ego phase I remember because like I grew up my I would say My parents not so much my dad more so my mom but very fearful about everything like We didn't really have helicopter mums in the 80s, but she was pretty close You know God love her. Yeah Your mom's like the lady of responsibility. Yeah, she was the mom like, you know, make sure your jacket zipped

7:47 Do you have hat and mitts? Where's your backpack? Do you have lunch? What's in your lunch? Is it healthy? You know, what's on your feet? Are your socks gonna get wet? Oh my god You need do you remember like the soby's bags? So this is maritime reference, but We have this grocery store chain and the the thing was when your feet were wet You had to put those soby's bags on your feet in the bread bags Yeah, because you know, you can't can't keep your feet wet and your boots are leaking. So yeah We didn't have as much waterproof gear back then. No, so I don't know what was happening. Anyway Yeah, like so I I grew up kind of Trained to think about every little thing, you know, and then so I'm trying to develop my intuition and My egos stepping in saying oh you can't do that and you can't do this and don't do that because this will happen And oh my god, like you're gonna die Really had to work really hard to quiet that voice and feel safe You know feel safe and what I was doing and really going into my own Like knowledge and wisdom and talking to my higher self first and then I had guides helping me

9:03 But I think I really developed the relationship with myself first and that really helped because then I knew what my own voice Sounded like you'd be so so surprised the amount of people that don't know what they want Like how hard it is to answer that question and we've talked about this another podcast, but oh My god, like I can't get over the amount of people that do not They they don't ask themselves what they want. They just or even what they like or even what they like some happy They don't know they're just in a programmed state where they're just go go go But they're not paying attention to the things that Internally make them feel something. Oh my gosh. And so here here's me a spiritual awakening after having a baby I mean not really great timing Baby and then I had to go back to work and you know, and so it's the work-life balance and then you know at night I had all these things happening to me whether it was intuition my guides or whether it was actual a Paranormal thing happening at night and so it was quite quite a frustrating time to have so much Information thrown at me, but then I realized that when I could get to my center and get to my core There was just stillness. There was nothing there

10:21 But beingness and in the beingness you don't worry about anything because you're just existing. You know, it really is like The blank space well in in that blank space. You can hear your own voice. Absolutely and that's the best place That's my favorite place to be is actually in the quiet where I can hear spirit talking to me And it's almost like you and spirit are one so the voice you're hearing isn't necessarily a voice for me It's like I get I get like downloads of information and I have this feeling where I just know there's a truth being transferred to me and The thing that I love about spirituality is at least real spirituality is that The more you evolve and grow and and you're stretched and these things are not comfortable I'm not gonna lie like I chose a big life. And what does that mean?

11:16 People want a big life. They want all these things, but they don't realize that if you want a big life Most of the time I don't know if you'll agree with me here But I believe that when you choose big you go through big things Yeah, because you need that big soul growth and the more I get it the more I want it I'm I joke with Laura all the time and I'm like, I hope you're okay with your wife being like a little backyard Guru because I'm growing everything. I Love working with my hands. I don't know. I think we're in this time where my concern about humanity right now is that People are so closed off in their phones in the computers in the TV and screens screens screens And it's like information download. It's like in your face in your face like information I want it now now now even to the point where we used to work Monday to Friday and Saturday was kind of a You know sometimes people worked and now we have everybody who's working all the time so many things have changed and you know if If a kid is born and they're a very active child and they need to like stretch and move and and we say all these kids are Hyper they're this or that no, I don't believe that's true I believe they're normal and some of them are high-sensitive and stuff

12:32 But they need to be outside and be grounded and feel nature and the air and you know I keep going back. I've said this in other podcasts. I have four grandchildren with my son and his wife They have four kids. My daughter, you know has a stepchild but my son has these four little kids and they're all young and You know, I watch them every time we get there the first thing they can't wait for Laura and I to walk in the Door because they know what's gonna happen. We're gonna go to the beach. We're gonna go feed the chickadees We're gonna go for a hike and they want to do more of those things because There is something natural that happens When you take a kid outside, they just get happier calmer and and they're They're being silly and funny and oh my gosh for us like beautiful for adults I think it really clears us. Yes, I get clears our head it kind of Makes everything feel manageable like almost like there's flow and you see challenges differently And you can process things better like so many reasons to connect with nature and allow Yourself to be grounded and more balanced. You know, we are all connected to earth nature and the divine

13:49 And we have that connection and um, I often talk about this with lightworkers how we nurture both connections and we stay in balance and that That's kind of overlooked. Sometimes we're so used to being disconnected and to be, you know, you think about it You're in your home Um, you know, you're you're not on the ground And you're or we wear shoes and that breaks like rubber shoes break that connection to grounding And I mean we have to it's cold outside and all that but we're not Grounded we're not getting enough of what we need And our bodies actually need to be outside in sunlight and grounded and connected to the earth Even when we go to the beach in the wintertime If if I thought at all I could take my shoes off and walk on my bare feet I do if it's too cold. I mean, I obviously I can't walk on ice But a lot of the times I still like to have that bare foot in the connection Oh, and and it's the same with garden and I've said it multiple times but Right now I have a little indoor greenhouse that I I start all my seedlings in and Oh boy, just that alone makes me happy So these are the things that I pay attention to in my body and my mind and my heart Like I know the things that make me happy and I'm somebody who I just love love

15:10 I can't help myself. It's just it fuels me You know, right from the first time we did a wellness retreat All the girls were screaming and hollering when I started speaking and I thought oh, wow What a what a cool way to affect people But I just somebody just stood up and said you're a lover of life and a teacher of love and it's stuck because That is my thing. I I and I know if I'm too much for a lot of people I I know it. I can read people when I'm sitting in their presence. I know how they feel about me There's lots of judgments Um, but that's that's another thing I want to talk about here is the ego The ego is such a trickster You know, it's like You can feel like a million bucks. You can feel good about yourself. You can You know, and there's different there's different things you go through with ego, but You know, for me, it's like Love yourself enough to see the truth About who you are And love yourself enough to say, hey I'm really good at this But I'm I'm gonna work on this one because I I don't know how to do that yet, but I know I can Yeah, well, you know, when does ego come in it comes in when you're feeling vulnerable or threatened You know, or you feel like, you know, your back's up like you to protect yourself. So You know, of course, it's it's aggressive. You know, it's aggressive to match the energy of whatever's coming at you

16:31 And that's why I say, you know, it's not helpful when you're trying to Connect to a higher vibration. It's not helpful when you're trying to get an answer to a question that you know You need divine help But ego We we do need it because we are all human and we're all here trying to work together But it's something that you need to let you need to put it in the back seat For anything that requires your groundedness and your wisdom Because it's not going to it's not a fair fight. It's ego is fighting for your Your physical kind of safety, but it doesn't really know what's safe or not And it's like it's like the brain the brain doesn't understand Exactly what's safe and not it only knows what it's experienced before So when a new situation comes up Most of the time your brain is going to put that in the unsafe No column, you know, because it just doesn't have the information But the divine trusting the divine and trusting that, you know universal wisdom That's harder to do because you don't know what the outcome is going to be But you just have to trust that the divine or your spirit team or your soul path

17:47 Is moving in your best interest and that you have to trust what's coming the The ego part, you know It it has its place, but when we're trying to connect it's harder now intuition intuition is like There's like we were saying there's a centeredness There's a cool kind of calm collected kind of feeling that comes with your intuition Even sometimes, uh, I've noticed even if I get like warnings like You know, somebody might pass away or somebody might get hurt or something or sick I get these little warnings. They still come and this really still Voice which is a little strange to have a still voice come in and say, hmm, you better be careful You know, you might twist your ankle or you know, like you You know, but there's no fear attached to it. It's just kind of like a statement of fact And then you can act on it how you want to but it's not like uh Intuition's not bossy like I don't know about you, but I always get the messages over and over again But they're they're like calm and persistent like still almost like but it's not So if I get something, uh more than once Then I start to listen So if I just get something that says, you know, oh, you should really

19:04 Um change this on your website I just go, ah nah, like I don't have time for that whatever But if it comes back again, I'm definitely going to start to consider it And then sometimes it takes the third time because I'm stubborn Sometimes it takes the third time to come back in before I go. Oh, I should really listen to this But it's persistent. It is persistent. It doesn't give up. I mean, but it's very like it's very like Uh, what's the word? It's like it's not pushing you. It's not like aggressive. Right But intuition and our guides it doesn't matter what you connect it to because really intuition and ego can be a part of every single thing We talk about. Yep, right. I mean, uh, I hope it's okay to say this. I didn't clear this with you But here's the thing. I know because I'm in charge, right? No, it's just it's about piper So so many times people don't realize that we hold people here When they're ready to leave But because of our own personal reasons, you know, and it could be that we're afraid to let our kids Uh, feel all of how this is and stuff But I love the fact that, you know, I'm always the person that's going to say whether it's Your your mom or your dad or your grandmother grandfather Whoever it is a child suffering with a with a terminal disease a dog dying like like we had

20:22 You know, Laura talked to piper Thursday and she said to piper you have been a good dog And we had a really bad episode in October with her and you know, she lasted six months and to me I look at everything in the positive. So it's like what a gift we had her for six months And she got spoiled rotten in those six months and she's always been spoiled But my point is that Thursday morning Laura had a talk with piper and said you have been a really good dog And you've done your job and it's okay for you to let go It's okay for you to go And we just want you to know we're going to be okay And immediately the very next day Laura and I are trying to walk the dog The dog was not good couldn't walk and it was like that was it. It was just a dog saying thank god I'm done. Thank you for giving me permission. And then that was it was a really quick process So again, no matter what we're talking about in life It's that ego that says you're not doing enough and I feel for I'll say I feel for women, but I feel for There's some men that are really good men that have very that maternal instinct as a man You know, my son's amazing with this kid. So it's not just women, but we really do beat ourselves up about everything Everything you can find to beat yourself up about whether it's your your mirror image of how you feel about yourself in the mirror

21:43 Whether it's how you think you've done a good job or not a good job And and I'll tell you I see some parents that are not doing a great job Uh, and it's only because they're listening to their ego and not paying attention to their intuition Because when you listen to your intuition, you know that when you love Hypothetical your kids you got to love them enough to let them fall you got to look How do they succeed if they don't know how to fail? These kids today, they don't know how to fail. It's not good It's it's you know, and they want information and it's this you know, anyway, that's another topic But it's still it's all everything we can talk about every episode we talk about every Life thing that happens we could we can say that intuition and ego is a part of every single thing Every day of our life It doesn't matter because I watch people and I see them and I can tell that they do not love and respect themselves Or they would not act the way they do when somebody is sitting around And all they have to talk about is negativity from other people and other places They're not happy within themselves because the happier you are and the more grounded you are the less You want to occupy your space with those negative topics Yeah And the cool thing about this too is that the more that you channel yourself into that way of being

23:01 The easier it becomes and the easier it is to stay there and the more feedback you get from the universe to encourage that So it's like intuition is interesting to me because if we're really listening to our own intuition and by the way Every single person is born with intuition. Absolutely. Like that's your birthright So we have it we've had it You know as long as humans have been here We needed intuition a lot more In probably early You know early days early years when you know humans were hunters and gatherers and that kind of thing Like we needed our intuition to survive And so now what's happening is it's a lot. It's actually you know, it's a lot easier to survive now So now we have other influences and ego will fill the void, right every time. So Your intuition is super fast. This is how I always know there's one the truth teller. There's one Clear sign that it's my intuition And that's when I haven't had time to think about what's happening And I already have the answer right and that's how you know It's intuition or you're driving and somebody's name pops into your head and you weren't even thinking about them

24:16 There's a reason you know and Kim's really good at this because she'll be you know Thinking about somebody somebody will pop into her head and she'll message them and say I don't know why but I'm just thinking about you and they're like, oh my god That's because blah blah blah, you know, I had a dream about you last night I believe it and I've had that one a lot. We must be really busy at night because I think we're in a lot of people's dreams It sounds like but but yeah, it's really fast and the the way to train yourself is to try to pay attention For that first thought, you know that first kind of burst of information Because after that your brain has time to take over and dissect it and second guess it so And put you into a place that you don't really want to be you know So you can do first thought in second thought out. That's kind of the way I think about it Your first thoughts usually the right one and then this information you can't miss it Like like let's say you get a really fast intuitive burst And then you're going oh my god. I I don't know what that was about or I forget it or whatever Just ask for it to come back because if it's important, it'll come back I had to learn that too because I get I get a lot of intuitive messages in the beginning, but they weren't all important So sometimes they would come in and out and I'd be like, oh, I forgot that like or I don't know what that was about

25:35 And then it wouldn't come back to me and then it would bug me And then I because you know me I can't let go of anything. So then I'm I'm like, oh my god What was that? But then I had to learn to say to spirit I know that you will send me anything I need to know So if it's something I really need to know it'll come back to me And that's really important That should be a slogan for you know Social media and googling things like if I need to know it it'll come to me I don't have to search and search and search and you know But yeah, I just feel like intuition is this skill that all of us Really would do a lot better if we could develop it if we could use it And you know, it's so easy to fall into ego. It's like ego is is kind of like it's kind of tempting because It's like dramatic. It's loud You know, it's like in your face. It's in your face. It's going to yell at you It's going to tell you like if you don't do this, this is going to happen. So it's usually like a fear-based message It's loud and oppressive. I'm sometimes obnoxious And it will always say like, you know, it's like these do or die situations

26:50 Like like these ultimatums if you do this, this will happen. If you don't do this, this will happen But ego doesn't or uh intuition doesn't do that. No, and that's the thing that's another I like listening to you say that because it just hit me and Intuition doesn't do that and your guides don't do that Your guides actually have a lot of the same personality that you have So I'm a straight shooter. I say what I think. Yeah, like I don't want to hurt people's feelings But for me the truth is the truth and I I always think that's the best place to go And I've trained myself to do that and I'm human I mean things happen and you get thrown off for a moment here or there but The other thing about it for me is that The more grounded we are the more grounded we want to be The more we get away from the negative side of ego the ego that tells you you're not good enough You're not you're not, you know, uh, pretty enough. You're not smart enough. You're not this you're not that You know, and I've had this myself a full vulnerability here I always joke and say to Laura. I said you're so articulate like she just has this beautiful way of speaking And a beautiful way of knowing you know, but It's taken me all my life I'm 58 years old this year and it's taken me this long To be honest to see the true beauty of who I actually am and what I'm capable of but

28:09 I didn't always Have that because I was so used to being an overachiever And not having anybody around and there's no judgment My parents were kids having kids and I older I get the more I understand them and the more grateful I am for them For all the lessons, but you know, it it's it hasn't been an easy road for me And I had a learning disability and I you know undiagnosed but oh boy I still struggle to read and and to obtain the information unless it's something That's like gardening or something that really intrigues me And I always joke with Laura and go oh my god Like you're so smart and you have all these great words and she goes, uh You are just this person that knows stuff Well, like I like I noticed with you like you just go step by step through things and You do a really good job like almost everything you you do But there's nothing like holding you back like a lot of people That's where ego would step in and say you're not doing this right you didn't do that right put that back Don't touch that like but Kim doesn't really have that Let's almost like you just look at the things and you go well, this is what I have to do And that's what I'm gonna do and there's no ego doesn't step in until you can't no and and I know I'm gonna make mistakes

29:25 Yes, I expect to make mistakes like the first time I did tile work in the kitchen At my house in upper golden grove. I I just was so excited and happy about the house. I thought I'm gonna try this What do I have to lose? And I got out the diamond cutter and I cut the tiles and my axe at the time He wanted to help me and I let him help me for a little while But how hard he is on himself It was not fun working with him So he ended up quitting and and leaving because he broke a couple tiles and I said well I'm breaking tiles Like it happens. It's what we do. So it's the same thing with our kids I really see something happening in the universe right now and I'm not happy about it But I'm not happy in the way that it affects me Uh, personally it's I'm seeing something that really needs to be corrected because here's the thing If we're talking about ego Every single person in this universe is capable Of the same thing now, obviously, I wouldn't tell a five foot nine guy to quote and be a quarterback Um, and there there are some limits to what you know, what we're gonna do and stuff Some things make more sense for some of us, but Um, I think that we have this idea That we have to do and be something that looks a certain way

30:45 To be loved by the universe. Yeah, and I think love from the universe is unapologetically there It just is so it doesn't care if you want to try to run a marathon or don't not run a marathon Or you want to try to become a doctor or lawyer or whatever It doesn't care all it wants is for you to love yourself and be happy within you because The happier you are with who you are and allow yourself to like unfold and unravel Don't be so hard on yourself about every little thing. Believe me. I know It's not like I never was hard on myself and I'm still hard on myself about certain things, but My heart of myself now looks more like If I didn't plant something and it went rotten or if I didn't if I wasted something And I look at its life and say I'm so sorry I did that but I have a lot more I'm a lot better with myself now, but that would be where I would be Most hard on myself is waste and because I have so much gratitude for my life But if I'm being honest The truth about where I am right now and Massively has hit me at the first of this year is that I just really love This life. I think we're so incredibly Lucky to be here on this earth and I think if every person

32:01 That hears me You know started looking at all the things to be happy about and positive about Just look and see how your energy would build because your thoughts create your reality Well, that's it and here's the thing I I'm listening to you and I'm hearing that you know intuition Is like we can call that our connection to our higher self to our guides to the universe to universal wisdom All the higher higher frequencies, right If you are connected To your intuition you're connected to what's best for you. You're connected to what's best for the people around you And as you were talking, I was thinking about how We don't always let go The way we should and why are we holding on? It's usually ego So ego tells us that we're not doing a good enough job or we're not good enough It tells us that we have to try harder. It tells us that we need to do better like I think about the situation with with our dog piper And she was declining for probably the last year and a half. I would say she was having trouble You know getting around just like a senior dog would

33:19 Her vision was starting to fail a little bit in one eye You could tell because she was kind of bumping into things or she looked unsteady And she uh didn't have depth perception. So she was having really hard time at the stairs and There was all kinds of things, you know starting to happen And I could have been the person to listen to my ego my ego saying, you know, you just have to help her get better There must be something you can do you can buy some supplement, you know, you can get her on some medication We did that, you know, well, I mean for a while we did try things, but This has been going on for over a year, you know, her study declined and then You know, she had a little incident in October and we thought that might be it But then she bounced back and we did everything we could for but At the very end it just seemed like it did seem like she was just staying here for us You know, you could see it. She was really trying hard to be okay, but it was not for her It was for us And so if I was listening to my ego then my ego would have said not try harder Don't don't you know, don't give up and don't give up on her, you know But I could see her and her energy and she was ready And so it's only my ego that would hold her back

34:36 So you let go you release and you say like I had to talk with her and said It's okay. You know, we love you. We don't want you to suffer anymore If you need to go we're gonna trust you you take the lead and we will follow you And that does take it takes a moment with no ego And so think about all the people that we or all the even pets or Things that we hang on to, you know and even um a few years ago I had this really nice mug that I loved and um, I used it all the time Well, and your mom bought it for you which was cute because my mom bought it for me something that normally Yeah, like this wouldn't be such a bullseye and it was a yeah This was something I loved really liked it and so um one day, you know, I'm tired I got up in the morning and making coffee and I knocked the mug over and I broke the handle off And it hit me so hard. I was so hard on myself about breaking this mug And I was really beating myself up about it And I realized that it was actually connected to because I have this thing about me that I want to fix everything And so I was thinking I could glue it all back together and you know

35:54 I saved all the pieces and all this stuff and it just There was just too many little pieces and it wouldn't you couldn't fix it And the realization that I couldn't fix it Hit me really hard It hit me really hard about a whole bunch of things in my life that some things were out of control of We just can't fix it. We can't make it better. It just is what it is and it ended up This stupid little mug ended up leading me down a path of Almost like grief But it was grief for the things the grieving for the things in my life That I had no control over and I couldn't make it better. I couldn't fix it And there's people you lose and there's you know Maybe a career path you've lost or maybe you lose like a friendship or people pass away Like it could be so many things that we are out of control of but your intuition asks you to trust what is And to trust that there is a plan and a path And your and ego is always saying no you got to do something about this. You got to fix it It's not right. You didn't do that right or you did you know, whatever And what feels better at the end of the day what feels better Does it feel better to trust and allow flow

37:10 And have acceptance and release the pain that you're holding or does it feel better To hold on to stuff so tightly that you nearly squash it, you know Because I think that's kind of where a lot of people find themselves You love somebody so much That you can't let go of your ego to say goodbye Right And sometimes people are ready and they are hanging on for you And it's you know, that's another topic too because I think about my mom She is totally different in spirit than she was in and not totally different I don't mean like you you can tell it's her but her attitude is different because she's not tied up into all those Humanisms that she couldn't get away from there's so many things about her life. She couldn't change but in spirit Wow, she is happy. She's learning so fast like I feel her like Just like has this totally different perception about things because she sees things differently and she I think even back then I think women had this idea of You know their job as a mother and a wife and a homemaker and all that but nothing else Whereas now you have you know, you have women that are working and And being moms and so many other things

38:25 I I'd like to do a podcast on that too because I feel like we we need to help moms be not so hard on themselves because Well, think about think about what ego does too because No one no one is without it. And so the job is actually just to differentiate when is intuition speaking when is this my true self And when is ego speaking and when you start to tell the difference and you pay more attention to Intuition then ego kind of takes a backseat. So that happens but In people that have no awareness of this process Ego, we think of ego as like ah people with their chest Pumped up and they're telling you what to do and they think they know everything and you know, that's donald trump. Wait a second. Sorry But actually ego works in the other way too. So I was thinking about your mom And ego can Really beat you up and pull you down Because in her case she had a role She was a mom and a wife and that was really important to her to be successful at that because that was her life And she wanted to take us from a place of where they were when they were young To a place where she wanted to hopefully we would have success But that role keeps us in a place of ego

39:45 Which can keep us in a place of beating ourselves up or you know, um second guessing things and not really being indecisive so I was thinking about this in the way that like ego creates And um kind of an energy that holds you down You know, because we often think of egos the other way is that it's like boastful and loud and you know But it's it does the other thing too. It also pushes people down into their roles Whereas intuition says the roles don't matter you matter So who are you and what do you want? It's not about the roles that you play or what kind of job you did if it was good or bad It's not about that with intuition intuition is like are you okay? Do you have self-love?

40:31 You know, are you vibrating in the place where you want to vibrate for the rest of your life kind of thing? Like are you are you happy? Are you joyful? And it's not it's never about you know, did you do that? Did you do this? Did you turn the oven off? Did you you know, like it's never it's never that with intuition. It's more You know, what can you do to continue to raise your vibration? And what's best for you no matter what it looks like to anybody else And the beauty of that is that the more you raise your vibration. There's this calm that happens. It's like You know, I I I said this before I don't want to be 30 again I love being 58 because it took me 58 years to get here And I love the person that I am and I love the person I'm becoming every day And I love the relationship you and I have in the life we live But it's when you're listening to your intuition For me, it's like you're always in that growth of awareness spot when you're an ego You're in judgment. You're in fear. You're in lack of mentality It's it's not and the more you get away from it It's like when I dip my foot back in there because it you know Sometimes you have company or you have something you're doing and you're around other people and people's

41:47 Energy Deeply affects mine. I have to almost put a little bit of protection around myself because I don't like sitting around talking about other people Now I'm not talking about talking about normal things. Oh, did you hear about the guy down the road? His wife got cancer and then you feel bad. You send them good energy. I'm not talking about that I'm talking about sitting around making fun of people because they're not Pretty enough in your mind or they're heavy weighted or you know, and when I hear people talk like that I feel sorry for them because I think they don't love themselves very much That that's all they can do is talk about other people. Oh, that's where judgment comes from, right? Yeah So it's intuition is a really easy thing to get to know Because it is your higher self And our higher self is absolutely god consciousness. It is universal It is that is that is what it is. You can't have one without the other So when you're talking to your higher self, it is your direct line with source with the creator with whatever you want to call it Um, and it's a beautiful place to be. Yeah, and it's it's no different than I get looks all the time, but I get very excited about gardening But it's because I'm taking the scraps of our food and putting it in the compost

43:04 And then I turn the compost a couple times Over a year year and a half and then I put it in the flower beds And I feel so grateful that I'm paying attention and doing these things now. Is it a lot of work? Yep is gardening a lot of money. Holy god. Yes, it is But it gives me back It makes me feel good and when my wife goes outside and brings in a bowl of fresh tomatoes off the deck or She's down in the lower gardens and she's grabbing zucchinis or cucumbers or whatever I I just it makes me feel good because I think I'm paying attention And I'm allowing the earth to do what it's here for it's here to provide for us The trees are here to provide for us. Everything is on this earth to provide for us We're the humans that get to enjoy all this And if we're not we need to look at that and say hey, and I'm not telling everybody's gonna garden But it doesn't matter house plants get outside and hike and see nature and Experience it with your kids and your loved ones It's the best and easiest route to having a better connection and intuition Yeah, because you're in your natural state and You're in a place where things can come easily to you because you've cleared the clutter kind of thing And that's the thing intuition is absolutely we call it a gift, but it's an ability

44:23 It's what you you everyone has their own And the more that you listen to it the happier you are because you're avoiding a bunch of stuff That isn't even good for you in the first place So the more that you're listening to what is best for you You know one of those things that's going to happen It's probably is going to lead you outside because that is where we feel the most Connected and balanced and clear Well, you just said the word balanced because we talk a lot about the you know I talk a lot about technology and stuff and it's not that I'm against it It's I I believe that when we have kids today We hear it all the time and we go through it ourselves but when When kids get up And they're on the computer and they're on the computer till they go to bed Think about the buzziness of that computer and you haven't had any downtime You haven't been out in nature. You haven't even had the stink blown off you from outside Do you know what I mean?

45:20 It's of course I would go absolutely out of my mind As as a person that's intuitive and connected if I get stuck in that way I just go crazy. I would not be good Yeah, I know. I know it's balance. It is a little bit of everything is good Not too much of anything is is great. He's right Yeah, so we wanted to talk about like how to sense your intuition because I think Clearing like being outside like Kim said is a big deal making sure you're grounded And paying attention staying in awareness. So having that like intention I guess to use your intuition more and trust your higher self like that's really important But there is always and I I know you you know about this There's always a physical trigger or signal When I am getting a message that's really important and that I have to pay attention to And sometimes the signal is like actual physical like I'll get like head-to-toe goose bumps Like like that almost feels like for me it almost feels like You know, there's something moving through my whole body Like the goose bumps all hit and it's like water running down your head all through your body

46:38 So so we know like we we have that and you May too have that signal like of confirmation that Okay, there's something important happening. I need to pay attention You know, sometimes temperature shifts do it for me because I'll feel A big temperature shift in the room and then I know that there's something important about to happen So it kind of likes it peaks my awareness And sometimes it's the knowing feeling like that just all of a sudden there's like this feeling where I feel like I'm in I'm just going into my center and then I have this knowing feeling that what is Being shared with me is something I really need to take on and I really need to do something with it So there's all these little signals. You might have different signals like Some people see they'll see repeating numbers and then then they'll get a message like right after Or they might get a sign like they'll see a certain bird outside or they'll get a dime or a feather Like all the signs we've talked about before and then sometimes people like they tune in in that moment And then they'll get a message So it could be something outside of you But a lot of times for me when my intuition speaking it's my actual physical body I feel a shift in my body And you can test this

47:56 You can ask, you know, you're asking your your own energy field to alert you When intuition is speaking or when there's something you need to pay attention to So literally you just ask you just ask your energy field Your guides your higher self to alert your physical body in some way that you'll pay attention to When intuition speaking and the and again the more you pay attention to it the more it happens And the stronger it gets it's like a muscle, right? And we're we're working on the muscle memory here Yeah, and then just that awareness that you There's a something coming forward Like an impression of important like that's important And staying in awareness that that can happen, you know anytime throughout your day So sometimes when I'm like doing something Just like mundane like I'm doing dishes or something you don't have to think a lot So you're doing dishes and you're not really thinking and then that's when I'll get a message or driving Sometimes it happens because you're paying attention to driving So it's sort of like occupies that part the busyness part of your mind And then all of a sudden you get all these messages flooding in So that that can create like that um kind of keeping the monkey brain busy

49:13 You know can't create the opening to for spirit Making the space like that's the biggest thing about this awareness piece Is making the space for this to happen So like Kim was saying like go outside, you know be in nature and reconnect with nature And if you're reconnecting with nature just to reconnect it's fine But if you're reconnecting because you do want to Clear the channel for your intuition Then make sure that you have that intention and make sure you you speak it Like if you speak it out loud to your energy field and say I really want to go outside because I'm waiting to hear Um something from my intuition about this You know problem or this topic And then you know Being in the place of allowing the blank space So that doesn't mean you go outside and you do a bunch of stuff It means you go outside and you leave the space Sit still open your mind Don't think about your to-do list don't think about everything that you're you know You were going to do outside or whatever like take time take time But thinking for me being outside it's like It frees all the space up to think about actual like good things like

50:28 I can I can figure out how I want to teach you know I teach Reiki and I I go outside when I'm outside I could have not a thought in my head when I go outside But when I go outside I get all these beautiful messages because I'm in that space So I'll get these ideas and and one of the other things is you know We're talking about all these different topics with this but We have to be kind as we learn about our in our ego because ego is not good or bad It's about balance. You know, you should love yourself enough to know you deserve certain things You should love yourself enough to know that you don't deserve to let somebody talk to you that way or To do something to you. Those are all things that when you listen to your intuition Your ego can be strengthened in a beautiful way And you don't have to let yourself keep I work on people all the time and I can hear sometimes the thoughts in their head and they're They walk in and they're you know, they're aesthetically like beautiful looking people But yet they're so hard on themselves or through talking to them. I'll hear something and think wow We're so beat down You know that it's a sin to me and it's all ego. It doesn't matter how you slice it What whatever you feel whether you feel like you're the best in the world or you're the worst

51:46 It's all ego and I just I want people to hear this just be kind Just know that if you made a mistake in the moment, it's okay. It's not the end of the world You know, I I just I don't know like everything is about perception our our um Oh, I I feel like um, I feel like you're working up to this but It's sort of like I'm always kind of moving ego out of the way Yes, like like I visually do this to you so if I'm connecting with spirit I visualize myself Like standing outside of myself and then that visualization or that Like kind of impression of me I ask Laura to move out of the way Because Laura has a whole set of ideas and judgments and experiences and information But I don't need those filters What I want I want to go to the source. I want the pure information and so this um This idea is like I'm not being mean to myself or anything. I'm just saying, you know, I don't want to use all those filters right now I don't need them right now And just I just want to be in the energy So, you know, we're we got the trigger, you know, who my intuition's doing something, you know And then you're in your awareness and you're going, okay, I'm open and I'm I'm ready

53:03 And I've cleared my mind and I've made the space and you know, you'd be surprised how many people They want to listen to their intuition, but then I'll say to them will have you given yourself that opportunity You know the space to do it and they're like, what do you mean? And I'm like, well, did you take time in your day to actually reconnect with yourself and reconnect with, you know Universal consciousness and just have that blank space and they're like No, I'm too busy. I'm like, well, that's why it's so such a struggle, right? But this this being in that space ego Ramps up when we're in doubt. So what's the remedy? To trust yourself Trust how you feel about something if something doesn't feel right. It probably isn't right, you know So trust that you are moving on a path that that you will be given what you need And that you don't need to go to extremes to make things better or to fix something You just have to follow what feels right to you And trust that it is going to work out and believe that you're being led And I think that's a lot of the A lot of people struggle in that phase

54:21 And a lot of you probably see people at that point where they're, you know, they've been They're so Beat up like beating themselves up Over things and they can't get to the place where they feel good enough that they can even trust or believe And so this is such a process. This is like You're training yourself almost, you know, constantly, constantly small little and I always say people worry too much about the big stuff Worry about the little stuff. It will take care of the big stuff Yeah, so that's the thing like the This the trust part doesn't happen right away Because you're going to get all these things in life happening to you and coming at you And you have to actually Stop and assess and say wow, this makes me feel fearful. This makes me feel Sad this makes me feel and then you have to go wait Do I do I have to do that?

55:24 Do I have to feel sad or fearful or angry or jealous or whatever right now? And if the answer is you don't have to then you can choose the better thought the better feeling and you can choose to trust That whatever is happening has to happen to build you up for the next experience Or for something that you need to know Now the universe loves inspired action So I talk about this a lot because the universe loves it when it can speak to you And then it sees you acting on the message And this is the piece when you act on your intuition Doesn't matter if you talk to somebody if you journal it You know or if you're actually like acting on something like you were told go exercise, you know when you go exercise When you do that it cements The trust in the faith and in the universe it shows the universe that you are trusting it opens the channels And so it's like The best intuition booster Is just act on it But I love that you just said that because that's probably the biggest gift I have Is that I trust so much I was in the garage the other day my son I'm he missed my call because I always you know call him if I need any help with the carpentry stuff

56:44 But I was in the garage and I'm I'm trimming in my island Which just means I'm making it look like there's panels in the island like the cupboards So I'm out in the garage and I got to be honest There's so many things I've done that I don't know what I'm doing I just know I can do it and that sounds whatever way it sounds but I have redone I've renovated this house and I've done a lot of crazy things that I've never done before But I'm out in the garage and I'm cutting the pieces and I'm going Oh my god, how am I gonna 45 this? Oh, I gotta use table saw the 45 it well I don't know if you've ever done any 45s on a table saw But let me tell you it was quite a little bit for me to figure out How high should the blade be up out like what's it gonna take to make that nice smooth cut? And I probably cut two pieces three pieces of wood because I always keep scrap wood for practice because I I don't know what I'm doing. Well, you do but but you're learning about my higher self knows Yeah, yeah, consciousness knows everything. So I trust that So that's how I've been able to do all these things. So I make the cut I I figure it out and I'm just like if you could see me. I'm like dancing the jig out there all by myself Because in my mind I I'm a very curious person and physical work for me is is like

58:05 It's like a meditation. It's like a nerve pill. I guess for other people Like it's my nerve pill, you know, when I was younger, it was sports I need to balance myself a little bit more to have a little more one thing than the other but It I couldn't believe it. I was like, oh my god And I cut all the pieces and I painted them and they're they're getting ready for their last coat and they're gonna be put on but the point is All those successes that I have and it doesn't matter if it's gardening. It doesn't matter if it's in my work It doesn't matter. It's the only reason I can do the things I can do is because I trust What I'm connected to and I trust that they're gonna Like they're gonna through through me. They're gonna figure out. They're gonna show me how to do it And if I make a mistake when I make the mistake and I go, oh, that doesn't fit Then I go, oh, if I turned that around that way, that would have worked So, you know, and it's when I was younger I would have been a lot harder on myself because when we're younger, we are hard on ourselves because we haven't lived enough life We haven't had enough experiences, but Intuition is your best friend. It is the one that Is gonna, you know, when you stand in the mirror, you can say, damn, the stress looks good or damn that that looks good or whatever

59:21 Um And it's it's just a part of all of this is that we could take intuition and ego Into every single aspect of our life every bit of dialogue every our work everything And the more you get to know yourself and the more you get to love yourself the more connected you are becoming And the more ego Is being let go or used for the right reason. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, and that's the thing I think this is not about saying one's bad and one's good It's more about just saying that your intuition is working in your highest good at all times Your ego just doesn't have the capability to do that. So what all we're doing is we're we're listening We're listening without judgment. You can listen to both voices, you know, if you need to it's like the angel in the devil On your shoulders, you know, you can listen to all of it And then weigh out what is the best course of action from a calm place from a place of no judgment And you'll find Pretty much a hundred percent of the time that intuition is working in your best interest And so that's why we say the more that we kind of lean towards What feels right what feels good and you're paying attention and you're trusting the messages and acting on them

1:00:39 Because that is huge Action action meaning like, you know, you don't have to run out of the host and you know go do something But that you should take some action whether you write it down or you tell somebody That this is what's happening But that action kind of like it does kind of put in place The pathway for more intuitive messages to come through And for to help you strengthen that pathway And we know we know that intuition will help us kind of listen to our life path as well and to move us on that So I don't I love intuition. I don't think I don't think I have anything It's like I don't have anything bad to say about it other than sometimes it can put you in uncomfortable positions Because you know, you're asked to do something you really don't want to do but you know, you have to do You know, but it's always it's always in the highest good I love that though because for me, I'm one of those weirdos that really like to learn And I love it when I can learn that I'm not doing something You know, I think about making sourdough bread Well took a course in it and then Kim has to Master it right because I don't do things because I don't want to do them

1:01:56 I do them because I want to and if I want to then I want to do them well That's that doesn't mean I'm a perfectionist in the sense that it has to look a certain way in that The thing about sourdough bread is There's this long process and I knew I was forgetting I knew something wasn't quite perfect because Normally if I do something once and I do it wrong I learn how to do it right So it took me three times to get the bread perfected And I think for some people maybe that's not a lot but for me it was It was quite a bit because I have a little bit more luck to conquer things quickly. I guess but But I had missed a step And it wasn't that I missed it. It was that I misread What I was supposed to do at that point and then I changed it And I was like, oh my gosh look like I got it. It's crispy It's chewy. It's soft, you know, like I got it I don't know if that's perseverance or intuition, but you know, you definitely Well, both because you definitely had to listen to figure out what you know, what was wrong and what to do and you felt You know, there's something missing. Yeah No, but it can make us the ego can make you go quicker than If you just slowed down, well, yeah, that's why usually I I do read things over and over before I do it because

1:03:17 But if you were really like listening to ego, you might have stopped You might not have persevered and tried harder and that's not me No, no, I know it's not you but I'm just saying like yeah, if ego if you're ruled by ego Yes, you might have given up on that process for sure And who knows what you know what I did in the past. I don't know. I've always been this person that I don't look at I don't think You have to be a highly intelligent person To live a really good life. I think you have to be it to me It's more about being somebody that pays attention To their surroundings and to what feels good and doesn't feel good Like I'm telling you life's a lot funner when you trust yourself Yes, and when you are doing what's right for you and what feels right for you It's just life's a lot better. So that's why you know, this will always be a topic That's very close to my heart because I remember how hard it was to break out of the Programming the regular programming, you know to trust my intuition And I remember how I was so Impressed with how I felt guided and led Down the right path for myself and how I just became more settled

1:04:35 I felt better about everything and so This you know, trusting your intuition. This will always be Um, something that I love to teach and I love to talk about because I feel like it's It's your own guidance system. That's all you're doing. You're just listening to your own guidance system And when we go against the grain it's it can be painful. Oh Exactly, exactly. This is a great topic great topic enjoyed and we'll have another great one next week If you're interested in contacting Kim for soul awakening coaching, please contact her at mksoulcoaching.com If you'd like to check out my website and everything that I do, please go to laurawarrenmedium.com