What is Draining Your Sacred Life Force Energy?

0:00 Hello, it's Kim, and this is Laura in this episode. We talk about what your life force is and Why it is so important that you don't waste it. Absolutely. Your life force is sacred. Yeah, don't waste that stuff. No way We need to hang on to that. What is your life force Laura? Oh my life force. Well, I don't mind What is your life force energy? What is your life force? Yeah, this is not like a Jedi force We're not talking about Star Wars here No, I just I I see life force how I see it in myself and in others I see it as my connection to everything energetic in the universe, but I also see it as my own Expression of who I am in energy and vibration But it also holds sort of like the strength it holds that my health my balance my stability my groundedness So that auric field we talk about auras and most people know what that is But it's your energy representation of yourself. That's outside your body. Hmm. And The auric field can hold a lot of information But it can also Kind of show us where we need to work and where we need a little bit of help So it is kind of an interesting concept because we're talking about some things that people some people believe in

1:22 Some people don't but we know that our body is run by some sort of force or energy We know that these bodies don't they don't just run themselves, you know And I've been the first one to say that your body is like a meat suit without your spirit Without your life force. Yeah, but what we're seeing in a lot of our clients is that because there's no awareness of what this is Or what this means? They are depleted and when you become depleted, sometimes there's sickness. There's a feeling of being out of touch There's a feeling of not being able to connect with your loved ones on that deep level that you want to And oftentimes people become depleted in ways that they're just not aware it is hurting them So thinking about the life force as we talk about it today, we're talking about it in a sense of all things combined So sort of like your physical body your mental emotional spiritual self But also your soul your connection with everything that is your connection to you know, your life who you are And it's it's interesting that we don't I think a lot of people don't think about it as their actual currency So we know the currency of money, but we don't understand the currency of the body

2:43 Right and I used to tell people all the time when they'd come to see me And they used to joke and say if I could just follow you around every day I'd feel great and I said well, I'm glad I make you feel good But you know truthfully when you're I used to always give the analogy that if you're in the shower in the morning And you know you have a regular nine-to-five job and you get up and you're in the shower And I always said if you had a hundred dollars, and I think Wayne Dyer said this in a few of his books or something But if you had a hundred dollars worth of energy meaning that you were full in the morning before you stepped out into the world and You're in the shower, and you're getting all cleaned up most people when they're in the shower They're worrying about the day. They're stressing about their kids. They're they're wondering, you know Whether they have a partner or they don't it would change what they're worrying about But it's worry worry worry stress stress stress. Well, you're depleted. So before you even leave your house You're in the minus. So your hundred dollars is gone. Yeah matter of fact, you're you're owing money That's that's usually what you're in the red. You're not so so it is so It's so important to keep your energy good and I always say to people, you know, somebody will say, you know How does somebody attract more abundance and somebody else not tracked it for me in my own experience?

4:01 It's my life force energy I know is connected to everything that is so everything that is is a universal consciousness That we're all able to connect to but we don't all realize this So if abundance is there for one, it's there for all. So why does somebody get it and somebody not? Well, it's because I always say when I when I know I'm going somewhere and I need a little bit of protection I always joke and say I got my Wonder Woman cloak on, right? And it's almost like, you know, you know that you've got almost like this Protection around you to protect your life force energy So, you know, these are things that I'm aware of all the time And I know you have your own way of making sure that your energy is sacred and you have a way of protecting yourself But for me, this has always been a case and it's no different than when you walk into a room And I love the old saying of your cups half full or half empty these are all things that tie into this because you know, if you started living with your cup full and it never went below half full Then you would never have to worry about what it's like sucking the scum off the bottom of the cup because That's not a fun place to be up in there before. I know what it feels like, but I don't like it

5:19 So I work really hard to keep my life force energy good And you know when somebody's life force energy is in a good place When they feel like they are in alignment with who they are and what they're doing and how people perceive them So you don't feel like Tired about your day. You feel you actually feel positive and often excited. Absolutely You don't feel discouraged about the things you have to do in your life You don't feel like you don't have enough energy to do all the things that you need to do When you when you feel like your cup is full, you know yourself Everything seems to go your way and people wonder why that is why why does everything like work out really great when you're having a great day And why does everything kind of seem like it falls apart when you don't have everything you need and it Goes back to these the sacred. I call it sacred energetics of life but think about your life force as like a bank account mm-hmm and We know that energy has a frequency Has a measurable frequency frequency and so this is often you can measure a lot of emotions

6:36 It's and their actual frequency. There's science behind that but a lot of people don't Understand that when they are doing things that are against who they are against what they need That takes from them that that lower energy actually starts to deplete that bank account Whereas if you were in a place of gratitude in a place of enlightenment in a place of joy You are refilling your bank account absolutely and no no human no person can be in a good place all the time But we can there's lots of things we can do To protect that life force energy so that when when it does get depleted You'll know because that's when those burnout moments happen. That's when you're so exhausted You can't deal with anything. You're so emotional in there, right? And we've all been there many times but but if you're staying in awareness of when this happens what caused it and Also, you're staying in awareness to know listen. Maybe today. Maybe the best way to honor my life force is to take a break Maybe I need to do some self-care today Maybe that's the best thing to do to get myself back on track But we want people to not feel so dragged out that they're not enjoying their life and to realize that they have choice within this

7:58 You know, I'm I'm somebody who I really work hard I'm very proactive about my health and that means mentally physically Spiritually all the way around and I wake up and one of the things you and I like to do is we like to have coffee together every morning It's it's connection, right? And and we get to chat about the day and and we do the same thing at night But we like to go for a walk because again your life force energy is also tied into if you didn't move You would feel terrible. Yeah, and we know this with babies that nobody no baby stays a crawling and never learns to walk Like we don't stay that way. We're constantly growing evolving and shifting and changing So one thing about this year 2025 for me has been that I have never felt more happy more grounded And in control of my own joy my own sacred life force energy, but it's come from Being in the earth. So I did a lot of gardening this year I Got to listen to the earth tell me, you know, where to put things and where not to put things and I said I saved a lot of plants life this year because I'm I'm human and I I know I can't keep

9:16 You know, I have like ridiculous ADHD to the point where you know I used to go from job to job and I can still do that but I'm way more productive than I used to be so For me learning that the earth's energy is also a way to feed you Which I don't think a lot of people know like they know when they go to the gym and work out They feel good, but for each and every one of us. That's a different like you and I like to walk I like to swim. I like to swim. It doesn't matter where I just like the oceans my favorite but we have a lake in our backyard, so I use that but Watching things grow and then being able to take them and eat them and create this beautiful food with this beautiful energy Spirit told me one time last year when I was just growing herbs They said if all you did was grow herbs and put them in your food that along alone, sorry Has such a high vibration that that would feed your energy and boost it up all by itself, right?

10:17 And what happens like there's care taken in Kim's so connected to nature And there's care taken when you grow your own plants So you you get good soil you fertilize the plants you make sure they're watered you talk to them You pay attention to them you have make sure they have everything they need. Are they in the sun too much? Are they in the sun not enough, you know, and so I watched Kim go through this process with the garden Not a first not really understanding how important it was going to be But I saw her do these kind of full circle things where she Started a worm farm and she fed the worms the sort of the composted food And then the worms would produce a soil that the soil is a great fertilizer for the plants And then the plants grow and then we eat the fruit of the plant and then again We compost what's from the from the plant back into the soil and give it back to more plants. So what we're doing When we when we're when we're unaware of where our energy is coming from and where it's going It's like you are just like a leaky You're just like a leaky container walking around losing everything all the time and you know You might have a good day here and there and you go

11:33 Wow, this was a great day But then you might have 10 bad days because you're not paying attention to how you feel about things yourself what you need and so Kim She knows she needs that connection with nature. I have more mental energy. So yes When I'm in nature, I feel better always, but for me I need if I'm having a bad day and I need to change the energy I have to stop and have a moment of gratitude to shift the energy So sometimes at my worst, I remember having a terrible terrible time A few years back. It didn't feel like everything had changed So you'll know this if you've gone through a spiritual awakening and you change for the better all of a sudden it feels like you lose a whole bunch of people and You you typically you only lose the people you need to but at the time it still hurts So I had lost a whole bunch of people in my life and there was a lot of grieving and I was having a really bad day and just felt like everything was going wrong and Of course my energy is low. I'm like, how am I gonna get through the rest of this day?

12:39 I still got to pick up kids from school. I still got to make supper. I have laundry, blah, blah, blah And what I did was I stopped and I thought wait a second I still have some good people in my life and I'm gonna say thank you So I sent them all messages and just told them how much I appreciated them and how thankful I was that they were in my life and it totally switched the energy and I felt myself be filled with with what I needed what I needed to Change the energy of the moment, but also Recharge myself refuel myself and ground as well. And we are electrical systems whether we like it or not Our bodies are electrical systems. And so when people talk about grounding, that's a real thing. Oh, and you do need to ground but what we're talking about today is the awareness to stay in the present moment to actually ask yourself if You're not feeling great or if something's going wrong Ask yourself why and what it is that you can do about it checklist Yeah, like checking check in with yourself, you know Sometimes there's nothing that can be done. Sometimes you're just having a horrible day and you just need to take the day And rest and all that and that's normal

13:56 But sometimes you can check in with yourself and ask yourself honestly with no expectations Ask yourself what what's happening here? What do I need to know? What do I need to learn from this? And what do I need to know? Because we see people all the time when they when they are so beat down Maybe they've been a people pleaser. Mm-hmm. Because this is a big this is a big big problem, right for lots of reasons When they're so beat down that they don't even know what they want anymore They don't even know what they like and when you ask them what it is. What do you want? Hmm, and they can't even answer. Yeah, they don't know. Yeah, it's it's really sad It's you wouldn't think that that question would be a hard question to answer But for people that have been giving of themselves forever and ever they don't even know what they like or want anymore Hmm and that one of the things with having such a healthy relationship with you and I and one of the things I've realized through it is how important connection is with your partner So, you know, we weren't taught to talk about things the way we aren't today Sometimes some people over talk things. I understand that too But you know you and I for instance, we talk about everything and we talk all the time We have afternoon tea and morning coffee and you know nighttime talks before we go to bed

15:14 And there's so much connection and you need somebody to listen to you and and make you feel like they want to hear What you have to say because when you connect like I teach The magic medium the magic of mediumship class that I teach They're the very first class we just taught on Sunday and one of the lessons is to go connect with a tree Right, so you go talk to a tree and some I mean my students are awesome I mean, they don't think I'm crazy, but you know, some people would say I'm crazy You're you're out there talking to a tree But the thing is when you engage with another living being you engage in an agreement to contract to exchange energy Well, what do you want to exchange energy with do you want to exchange energy with an angry person who has road rage in rush hour Traffic or do you want to engage with somebody with great positive uplifting energy or do you want to engage with a Beautiful tree a beautiful healthy tree or do you want to engage with?

16:16 Something that you know, I don't want I feel bad saying it on unhealthy tree because I love trees But obviously if you're feeling really down, I think you would probably go to you know, the healthiest most vibrant You know tree or plant you could find so this is the thing is that I Don't I don't think we are really engaging this awareness enough And that's why people are losing track of who they are and now we have the added challenge of technology Hmm, and and it's in your face. I know myself I don't put anything negative on Facebook and Most of the time I don't know what's going on. I don't read the paper. I don't watch the news I really don't put any information in my head that I don't want in there And I love that you have way more awareness of what's going on in the world than I do Because I don't want to know a lot of that stuff and I don't I don't want it in my in my field You can handle it. I can't I can tell the difference in the energy when your kid like Laura has You know her acts and her they have 50-50 custody so the kids are with us for a week and then they're with their dad for a week and I

17:36 Can feel the difference when they come back. I can feel their energy it affects my energy You know, even the dogs energy affects us. We're all so in tune with each other and So how many times are we going out into the world and thinking that we're sad and depressed and anxiety and all that But it's not sometimes not always but a lot of the time it's not even you you're picking up and Everybody knows how to do this. Nobody Has no awareness of this. There's times when you're around somebody and you can feel their energy You can feel their anger. It's palpable And actually there's new studies that have just been released how they're measuring our brain waves and they're saying that We on some level are all connected our brains are actually connected So now like the stuff that I was saying when I started Doing readings and I started like opening up as a spiritual being and I was saying things like that like I feel like I'm a radio receiver almost that I receive a ton of radio frequencies and channels and I had to learn to tune into which ones I wanted I love that analogy. I really do because it really makes sense. Well, I had to like I had to

18:52 Teach myself how to tune into the things that were right for me and This discernment comes when you start to listen to everything in the present moment So your body your actual physical body is a measuring tool So to actually use it, it's so simple I mean, I know people talk about muscle testing and you have to hold yourself a certain way and all that It's not even that difficult what I do is I'll ask myself a question You have to clear your mind So you clear all your expectations your judgments and you clear your mind you clear your mind of your desires as well Because your desires could mess this up, but to ask just say Maybe it's somebody new coming into your life and you're not sure about maybe their behavior and you ask your body Do I feel comfortable with this person's behavior and you will feel your body immediately either open Like you have an openness and a relaxed state and peacefulness and your chest will open Or you will feel tense and you will feel your shoulders Curl in and you'll feel yourself in protection the armor the armor comes down, right?

20:04 So your body actually knows sometimes before your mind Because your body is that energy system and your brain is working to protect itself all the time So your brain doesn't actually know what is okay to take a risk on but your heart does And I love that because it's like think about your solar plexus and how important it is for me The solar plexus about personal power. So think about when somebody says something that's really hurtful It hits you right in the solar plexus. I know and it like takes you out I remember when I did my first level Reiki We are all getting ready to get in the circle and you know, we were connecting our hands like one hand Left hand up right hand down or whatever and we were all staying there was 16 of us I remember this is like it was yesterday and all of a sudden I felt this energy come in the room and it hit me in the heart so So hard and it was just really it just felt like I was given permission to let go And then that moment I let go I felt like somebody took a shotgun and shot me right in solar plexus And I literally cried and I mean snot cried standing up ugly ugly ugly cry

21:20 I like I couldn't even control myself. I cried so much and I remember at the time my best friend Chris was with me and She was just like supportive like like no big deal, you know like come on Let's go get some fresh air and I I thought somebody literally shot me. I had no energy I was not I was not used to leaking my energy yet like this And I remember even my teacher came over at that point and wiped my nose because it was that bad It's just like, you know, and for me that was probably one of the first awarenesses I had of how big our life force energy is Yeah, I don't nobody tells you that when you when you have a spiritual awakening and you start Following the spirit. It's not pretty some pretty all the time And it's kind of borderline embarrassing sometimes, but I trusted it no matter how bad it was I trusted it and this is just another little piece. I want to say before you you take over but There's a little bone. I can't remember what it's called in this moment at the bottom of your sternum. Yeah the sternum Yeah, that bone Literally broke in half and I know that sounds absolutely crazy But it still is not healed completely and that was in 2006 and you can physically like the doctor can feel it

22:38 And my doctor was like, I don't know what happened. I don't understand it But there's physical proof that maybe from this lifetime trauma from childhood Even trauma from past lives had been blocking my solar plexus. You just cried too damn hard. Oh my gosh Did I ever right but grateful for it so much gratitude for these changes that we learned to make Yeah, I think gratitude has to be The number one has to be number one has to be the key element here I think we talk about enlightenment as having the highest energy frequency that you know, we can experience as humans But honestly, you can't get to enlightenment without gratitude And so if you are having a hard time if you are stuck somewhere in your life and you feel like you can't get out Find something to be grateful for and it can be a silly thing. It doesn't matter The energy will start to shift the more grateful you are for what you have and I know It sounds corny and I know people say oh my god had cheesy. I don't want to do that I get it but it works and I wouldn't tell you to do it if it didn't work And you get addicted to it. Yeah, you really do because

23:54 I know when you were talking about the gardening You had joked with me and said, you know, you should just quit working in garden because you you're so happy It makes you so happy But the thing with me is it's like the cycle of life, you know we have all these beautiful gifts and we're here on this earth to have this experience and I'm gonna fill mine with as many beautiful memories and experiences as I can and The other side of it is I mean I was going like a crazy person. I never made jam before so this year I'm making all these different jams and and I'm making chow and I'm making beats and I know You know what ADHD stands for right? Well, you know what it stands for? Stands for always crazy. No Attention directed to a higher dimension, right? So my wife lives in a higher dimension. I believe most of the time Yeah, I don't know. That's the only way. I think she gets so much done. Yeah, but yeah this this whole idea that There's there's a belief system that can go along with this to you massive belief Well, you can't believe that you have limits if if you're in a place where you're like, I can't do that Well, you've already told yourself you can't do it

25:10 And if you've told yourself that'll never happen for me. Listen, it's not gonna happen. So there is a whole like kind of process to opening yourself up to your limitless possibility opening yourself up to what you came here to do and This is not just about Us saying you should go out and garden all day No, this is about us trying to say to you that your energy is precious and that you need it You need it desperately I mean look at what we're doing out there in the world right now and we all have phones attached to our hands and We all have screens in front of us all the time if I had a choice What I wanted to connect to I want to connect to people I don't want to can there's no energy in a screen and I find this too This is kind of a funny thing, but if I'm holding my phone too long my hand gets cold Why do you think that happens because there's no energy? In fact, it will suck the energy out of you and I I've been that person on different parts different places on my path I've been struggling with certain things and when that happens I cannot have batteries around me because something happens to my energy field and it just

26:26 It's like it says no you're taking energy from wherever you can get it. So I can't wear watches I can't have a phone near me I I I struggle when I was doing the documentary series with batteries on my Mic pack because I would drain battery after battery And sometimes it's not as bad like sometimes I find when I'm doing really well And I feel really good that that doesn't happen as much So I I I gratefully have been wearing a watch for a few months now and the battery is not dead yet So I'm happy with that, but but I know for most people that's they can't just walk around and drain electrical appliances They they have to find their energy in better ways than that. So that's why it's so important To be in a place where you first of all You want to do what's best for you Like that is absolutely that's like a that's like a really good starting point Like are you even in the place where you can do what's best for you?

27:27 Well, and again, I know we don't like to talk too much about what's going on in the news and stuff But there is always negative stuff in the news. That's part of the reason why I You can say it's ignorant of me to not know what's going on in the world But I do live in my own little world I really do and I have no problem saying that but I control my environment and when I go out into the world My tank is overflowing. So I can handle a bunch of people I can handle going back. I go to New Brunswick from Halifax and I work in New Brunswick and sometimes I'll see 28 to 34 people because I'm a naturopathic therapist as well and I'll see 28 to 34 people in four days and Sometimes more and the thing is is that I know that I have a very big Source of energy to draw on I remember one of my very first teachers Jennifer She said we were doing orc perception course and she said Kim's aura is way out there by that big tree I had no idea and nor and really it didn't mean anything to me Sometimes I just say thank you I don't know like you know and well you can't change things about yourself that just are right and I but the funny part is

28:43 I do understand my energy and how big it is when it hits When it hits the floor so when something because I'm not perfect I work really hard on staying good, but I'm human so I have human days and There's times where I always had this analogy with people where I said, you know when you first start your spiritual path It's like you're coming in at the ground floor, which means level one or the basement because a lot of what we'll call condos Have a basement first and then the main floor is like, you know floor to and up you go Well, I like to say that I live in the penthouse And I am never going down to the ground floor again because from the penthouse I see everything before it comes at me, but if you're on the ground floor things are coming at you You can't see them till they're right there. It's not as easy to keep your energy Clean as it is when you're in the car. You're in the penthouse suite, you know And that that again is that goes back to like keeping keeping yourself in a good place right you have a responsibility to yourself and I can't I mean obviously all sorts of people out there all sorts of backgrounds and all sorts of problems But I hear from people all the time that act like things are happening to them

30:03 People did something to them and from that place you have no power You have no control and you you have given yourself no choice so you have to find ways to Shift the power shift that that kind of power Dynamic because if you don't you're always gonna be stuck in the basement and think about somebody who lives in like a basement apartment They look out the window. Well, what do you see? You see maybe wheels on cars You maybe see people up to their knees walking by with their their little dogs or something You know, you see part of a tree trunk, you know part of a garbage can but like Kim said you don't see the whole picture And so how do you get to the penthouse? You have to be in control of your own thoughts and feelings You have to be in a place of discernment You have to sit with things in your heart and forget sometimes about your head because your head will Absolutely like our the way our brains work. There's no there's no gray area. It's a yes or no It's it's either safe or it's not safe and a lot of times things that your brain will tell you are not safe They're just telling it's just telling you that because it has no information about it But what has information about what is going on in your life and what's coming at you?

31:22 Your heart is very intuitive and actually again Science has found that your heart has way more neurons in your brain. So your heart is working on a totally different level Let things come into your heart and let your heart decide what you want to do talk to your body Do that little exercise see if your body tenses up when you ask it things and it'll help you It'll guide you and it'll take you down the right path Mmm, and our our minds are set up to protect itself. The brain is actually set up to protect itself So if you always listen to your brain, you wouldn't you wouldn't really you wouldn't take any risks You would never grow you would never take on a new belief you would never change you never meet new people And so what kind of life is that that's not where you want to go And and that is a very low energy life keeping your life very small You know and some people everybody's got a different path and everybody does different things and for some people a Small life is very happy for them, but for somebody like me. I think I would just shrivel up and Evaporate if I had to live a small life. Well, and that's that's one of the funny things about me is I You know, I used to complain about some things like everybody else but then I realized that you know when I had to leave New Brunswick and

32:41 Leave my kids and my grandkids to come here and live with you because your kids were younger And it was the right thing to do and the only thing to do But I was mad at the universe and I'm not joking. I'm I'm a big energy So you can imagine big energy being mad. It wasn't very pretty and I I have no problem admitting my faults or my Points in my life where I wasn't as strong as I would have liked to have been but I was like mad mad I can remember Being in in my bed all by myself and Chris Pam and being like I can't believe this I have to move to Halifax. I don't want to move to Halifax like my work is here blah blah blah and I was really angry about it for a long time and I got to the place where I thought, you know, silly Pay attention because when you choose big you choose a lot of experience and I know I chose a very big life There's so many different expressions of Energy in people so lots of personalities right lots of belief systems Lots of reasons why people do things May be in securities in securities Maybe it's their their trauma, you know, but at the end of the day We all come here with a soul blueprint and we have things on our list that we need to learn from

34:01 So, you know, there's something on your list that you need to learn from if it keeps coming up So maybe maybe it keeps happening, you know, maybe there's a theme in your life Or maybe there's a theme in your relationships or maybe it's something that really really agitates you when things agitate you It's there to get your attention. So you so you can grow or change, right? And yes, there are people that are saying and doing negative things judgmental things, you know discriminatory things racial things, you know And so that does hurt my energy field. I know it does. That doesn't mean it's going to be the same for everybody But I think the reason it hurts my energy field is because I can feel that person Having the their soul their spirit needing the change needing the awakening needing the awareness That they need to grow and they're stuck in a place where they're Literally hurting other people because they they don't want to grow. They can't grow. They can't see it. They're closed They're in denial. Whatever it is. They're hurt. Yeah, but I do I do have the Thankfully because I think I would go crazy if I didn't if everything hurt you all the time

35:18 You would go crazy, but at least I have the knowing that that is a soul who is in somehow in pain or suffering and needs to have a new awareness and So I know that so I've compassion for people when they are beat I guess what we would say behaving badly I have compassion for them because I know that that soul is hurting or that person has had some Something that has put them in that place of belief and that they need they need growth But it's not up to me, you know It's not up to me or it's not up to Kim or anybody else to teach that person They got to figure it out on their own and that's that's kind of the the nice thing about We're talking about sacred life force. We need to respect our own But we also need to respect other people's path. Absolutely and We're respecting ourselves by listening to ourselves by making sure that we don't invite things into our energy field That can take away from it We're you know when you get to this place you want to be healthy Like you want to eat well, you want to sleep well, you know, you want to meditate you want to exercise You just you crave it because your system knows how good it feels and knows how much it needs it

36:35 So you just get there naturally as you decide to focus on what is best for you So I I sort of lost my train of thought there Yeah, but but I do know that we are watching people grow and change at all different rates and It's a natural progression once you start to listen to yourself But the other part of that when you start to listen to yourself And you get your energy up and you start to feel better You care less and less about what other people are doing I think one of the greatest things I ever learned was and it took me a while, but What people think of me is not my business What I think of myself is what's important and and the whole heart chakra to me is like the soul connection to source You know and it's the most important center in our body because it's it's about how we Receive information and what we do with it and how we transmute it back into the world and that's that's for me It's it's like I have a schedule now that I do almost all the time But the thing I love about when you start paying attention to some of the things we're talking about today It's like when you're cooking like I don't know about you

37:51 But I love cooking more than I ever did before Partly because you love cooking too and it's fun to do cooking with somebody else that wants to do it I feel like food is love. Yeah, I've always been that way I've always felt like you know when you put Energy love attention into your food and what you're cooking for the people you love It's like an expression absolutely and and the color and and like you and I are addicted to herbs now But you know, I always love when When you don't know how to put yourself in a place of that love and connectedness just look at little kids playing They don't care They don't care who like what you look like what you dress like what you they're just happy They just want to be loved and I feel like an eternal child because one of my favorite favorite things is I know that our grandchildren my son has four children and they are like two four six and eight I know they that's how change a little bit Bennett had a birthday seven and so there's gonna be nine so but they're they're very close in age and they know When we're coming to New Brunswick the first thing Sawyer's in the in the camera going man Are we going to the beach?

39:00 They know what we do and we know what we're doing and we've been doing it since they were a Year old and it's we take them to the beach. We take them to feed the chickadees We take them hiking, but we do things that are naturally grounding They're they're just little kids. They're like Velcro and kids love nature right best way to fill them back up and they just are so happy and We're creating memories and then it's like they know if they're having a hard day I'll tell you one thing I pay attention to my wife all the time and when she's too busy I just look at her and I go we're going to the beach and she'll look at me and go, okay, or I'll say today No plans and she's like no I said, okay. We're going out. I'm gonna take you out for lunch She goes well it's nine o'clock in the morning. I said, yeah, but we're not going to lunch here We're gonna go out for the day and we'll go down to Wolfville And we'll travel around and we'll do some hiking and some sightseeing and beach combing and then we'll go Have something you aren't really good at that You are really good at that because I I do get really caught up in I guess my work is really important to me and Not only is it important to me to help other people I know a lot of people think wow you're in the helping profession and you know, it must be so hard for you to do

40:19 Readings and things but actually Being on your path and doing what you came here to do it fills you up It just makes you feel good all the time But sometimes I get lost a little bit and I just I really love what I do and I and I put a lot into it But then I forget, you know, I actually am a person that you know needs rest sometimes So Kim's really good at breaking me kind of kind of out of the cycle or out of that thinking and You know, I think I do the same for you, too You do the same thing for me. I'm outside and I don't know when to stop and you'll say hello Come and get something to eat. Yeah, I made some food. You haven't eaten for you know hours talk about fuel Yeah, right, right. So, you know, I think All of us have to do what is right for us All of us have to do what feels best for us Everyone's on a different path and that's the coolest thing about this is that when you can straighten yourself out It's like you align your energy and you watch how everything else around you starts to fall into place That is so true. It is true And I think about the energy of manifesting and how you know, you and I like we have been tested to

41:37 The limit, you know in our relationship But not really within who we are and what we are for each other What it's been like to be together and to get to each other and to do the work We want to do and all of these things. I mean, it wasn't easy for us but we had to always trust that Whatever we whatever was thrown at us was thrown at us for a reason and we had to figure out a way To see what it was there to teach us and we're very open about it But not everybody is and not everybody has a partner that you know, I think you and I I don't I don't care if you're a man or a woman or why what your gender or anything is I'm just in love with you and I love the way we both think and and the way we behave together and and That we love all the same things and that that's feeding that feeds me all by itself. It's synergy really Yeah, that's why another another way to increase your energy to feel better is to find people that are like you Find like-minded people find community Kim and I found each other and then from us I mean, it's just expanded from there when people come into our life or into our energy field that are like us It's like you recognize them You just know and every time you're with those people it lifts you up

42:56 It empowers you gives you new ideas makes you feel like, you know, things are possible that you didn't know were possible before and Kim and I do that for each other But you know that is that is the thing if you are if you feel a certain way You know who now let's just say you've already discovered who you are, you know what you want You know where you want to go the next job is to find people like you because that Energy builds when you find people that think the way you do that love the way you do that are Experiencing life in a way you want to you you hang around those people Get with those people and you'll find that you become more and more The person that's growing the person that's full of energy the positive person if those are the things you're looking for I guess there's souls that are looking for other things, but but you know, I just feel like Synergy is worth mentioning because sometimes you alone can't do it all we're not islands Humans are meant to be in relationships. We're meant to have friends and companions That's just the way we're built And if you have done some personal work some self-development work and you know already You know who you are, you know what you're connected to, you know what makes you feel good

44:15 You're making choices in your life and your highest good. The next step is to find community well, and the other thing that through what you just said that You know flagged me was I've always known who I was but to what level it's like love. I've always Known love, but to what level I've never known who I was who I am as much as I have now because I'm with someone who gives me a hundred percent permission to be myself You never ask me to be different. You're never complaining about the way I am You let me process through my crazy moments that you know, I I'm not behaving at my utmost best And that's a humanism. That's like that's human and the difference is Years ago, I would beat myself up over doing something wrong Now I have a process or a checklist that I go through and I know my wife does because I feel her Literally looking at me. She's not saying anything But if I'm having a hard day and I expect a lot of myself, I'm a very go-go, you know fix this build that do that But she'll literally look at me and go hmm. Is she in pain?

45:27 Is she hungry? You know or whatever the checklist is and I know with me I look at her and I go if Laura's hungry You better get out of the way because I food is very important. You can you can't go I can go way longer than you with a food You but my thing is I need love and connection and I need it all the time because it's a very Important thing to me and I love that whole like love languages and all that I tell people all the time screw the five love languages that are in I think it's Gary Chapman's book and stuff But I'm not one. I want them all I want every one of them Oh, yeah, Kim probably has 300 love languages. Yeah, I just love love I and I love to be around people who just Enjoy the simple things and one of the reasons why we started this podcast and we wanted to sit here and shoot the Breeze with everybody is we also want to give you a new way of thinking and Give you permission to say no. Yeah Yeah, that's funny, you know years ago I was asked to do a talk at a wellness retreat and that that was my talk was basically about this about how We have to say yes when it's right and we have to say no when it's right and more often than not

46:46 People that have been in relationships that they've been, you know Maybe they've been beat down or maybe it's like a trauma response to be the peacekeeper or the people pleaser to avoid conflict But lots of us our default is to try to do whatever's asked of us without saying no And so my whole talk was you know, my whole talk was really about discernment Apparently I kind of triggered one of the other speaking participants and her talk was about saying yes to everything And so I thought that was really interesting because saying yes to everything only works if you are already in alignment So if you're in alignment with your life, I can't remember that movie. What was that movie the Truman Show?

47:32 I think it was with Jim Carrey years ago and Or maybe it was a different movie he did but he just started saying yes to everything You know, you can attract a lot of good things in your life But not if you're already beat down not if your energy is already in the toilet You can't say yes to everything because you're you're gonna deplete yourself further And I think that's the lesson is get yourself in a good place Which is harder than it sounds but get yourself in a good place where you feel like your life can flow Then start saying yes to things because the things that are coming to you then are all in a high vibration They're all in your highest good and you are in a good. You're in a good place to receive Absolutely So I think we've talked enough Well, I think I think the thing I want to finish with is that It's so important to do the things that make you happy and bring you joy and we really need to think more about that because One of the things I see and I know you see it too is I see everybody Parents included they don't want their kids on technology, but they're on it all the time and it's it's it's become a tool To help people deal with their anxiety

48:48 But they're shut off from enjoying their life and I want to say to everybody Get out there and enjoy your life go for a walk go to the beach go do something Because find things that charge you back up because you're running around with a depleted battery And you know what that what what that's like and it's it hurts you more you can't deal with things as well I remember as a young mom, you know, I was strict But I was strict because being a parent was so important to me and from my experience as a child and through my life You know, I had experienced what I did and it gave me what I needed to figure out what I want What was important to me and what was important to me was to show my kids life and I was very strict But I was strict about safety. I was strict about the fact that they're not perfect They're gonna go out there and they're gonna try things that could be drugs could be drinking could be intimacy with another partner could be whatever but I always wanted to be respectful and I wanted them to know that they're not perfect They are gonna make mistakes and no matter what I wanted them to know they can talk to me and I know as a kid I didn't feel like I could talk to my father Because he didn't deal with things the same way I would have but I know that for me

50:06 I have two beautiful children and I believe we have incredible relationships and we talk about Everything and anything and I'm very comfortable with them, but I can remember my son. He was so good My daughter didn't do anything like I have nothing to say like my son was normal played poker with the boys and drank and you know all that stuff My daughter was very much a lot quieter and and very more introverted I'd say But my son I remember him calling me three o'clock in the morning saying mom Can you come pick us up and I'm like sure what's going on? He's like well the designated driver did something. I don't know what he's on but it's not safe So we're already walking in the rain. Well, here's the thing Because he trusted me and he knew I wasn't going to overreact and you know, just I just met it head on it was It's a kid being a kid. He was like 17 18 years old But that's that's being in the present moment and assessing a situation with a clear mind and doing what you feel is right and A lot of us are not For lots of reasons people aren't present or they're not in that awareness and they have many things Clouding their judgment

51:21 But you as a parent you were the parent that you felt you should be and you made the decisions that aligned With everything you were so it doesn't become a depleting experience It becomes a empowering it comes empowering and rewarding experience for you and your kids And a lot of us could really a lot of us Could really benefit from that from just Be being in alignment with who you are and what you believe as a parent Creates the same dynamic with your children and then there's no there's no energy lost You know, there's there doesn't have to be as much You know anger or tension or conflict when everyone is on the same page Well, that's another example of energy, you know, like When you're dealing with something you have to think about it. Do you want to scare the hell out of them?

52:12 Well, yeah, I know some parents want to but for me, it's more important that we have respect and trust with our kids so that if they ever fall on Like a really bad situation they know they can call and they're not afraid to be in trouble They just need to be safe and get the hell out of there Well, and this is this is like how we how we treat other people How it you know, if you were treating other people badly, that's affecting your energy field too absolutely and As the parenting dynamic is special and very can be very intense very complicated And I think that might be that might be a good thing for us to talk about in the future too But that it is good to know it's good to think about that whatever you are vibrating So if you're vibrating the emotion of anger You are going to spread that to other people's energy field and they are going to feel it and it's going to hurt them Just as much as it hurts you So as a collective our responsibility I believe our responsibility to ourselves and to others Is to work through things as they come work through our emotions And be part of this collective to continue to spread

53:29 Love and trust and joy instead of anger resentment and jealousy Because we are in a place where that's very important more than ever And if any of you have ever watched any of my energy forecasts now I haven't been doing them for a while, but that was a huge theme for years was Use discernment and try to keep your energy in a good place because we are all connected And if we are spewing vile things and vile energy Then it's going to get a lot worse if everybody is in despair then we are lost And so it is not everyone's job to be fearful and to be sad It is our job to work ourself through these emotions and no all emotions are healthy emotions But what do we want to vibrate? What do we want to transmit?

54:17 What do we want other people to feel as well? And when you get yourself feeling really good and in alignment I promise you things just tend to work out better around you Well, and I think one of my favorite things too is that We don't realize I know we know when we talk about Santa Claus and the sleigh and all that and It can't fly if there's not enough Energy and people that believe in it. Well, we're the same And the one thing we can do that is so everybody wants to change the world But we need to be the change that the world needs to find like to have so it's like Be true to yourself be the best version of you so that when you walk out into the world You being you at that positive high vibration Absolutely amplifies A hundred fold, you know what I mean? I remember Wayne Dyer used to say I loved Wayne Dyer. I love Carolyn Mase. I love lots of these people that I've listened to over the years But he used to say one person vibrating at the level of consciousness that they came here to vibrate at meaning One soul that's being on their path doing what they're meant to do and loving their life Amplifies a hundred thousand fold because the world is full of negativity and if you watch the news and stuff I hate to say this but we're all programmed And we're programmed to watch it and be fearful and

55:37 We're also programmed by what we let into our minds into our hearts into our existence and that's what this is about today It's about pay attention Just I I challenge you to to try doing something different Try getting in the shower and thinking about all the positive things you want to do in the day or Take a Saturday and take your kids to the beach and just watch them run And and play and be silly and I think we need to do more of that as adults And that's something I've always loved is as being like a child, but it's our responsibility really is to I mean children need us obviously, but our responsibility is for ourselves to put our Our own energy right So that we know that when we go into the world We not only feel good. We're our responsibility to ourselves is covered, but also your responsibility to others Anybody you interact and interact with and the the vibration Like Kim said that positive vibration spreads way faster way easier Way farther All right Then the negativity does and thank god because I don't know where we would be if there wasn't positive vibes out there sometimes I I'm the person too that if if there's a lot of heaviness going on in the world

56:52 And even though I don't read the paper and I don't watch the news and stuff I can still feel it from people around me and it still affects me, but I I can remember watching Obama did a national geographic on all these different Parks in the world. It was a series on the I think on the u.s. National parks. Yeah So I would watch stuff like that just because I would see all the beautiful animals and all the beautiful Scenaries and stuff and it would make me feel good and it didn't matter who was doing it or or or anything like that It was just the fact that watching nature I'm a people watcher. I love just going I love traveling and I just love people watching I love all different people all different shapes and sizes colors and like I love I love it all There's no there's no discrimination with me. My only discrimination is my my life force energy is sacred I know it's sacred and I do everything in my power to keep it that way and sometimes that means staying away from people that um What's what's the word? I feel like People well people that hurt your field. They have a different vibration than you and and they're You know, not very nice about it. Chuck and rocks at me. It's it's not it hurts

58:09 That's not to me stay away from like that's not uh, that's not discrimination But but it's that discernment to decide what is right for you and what isn't right for you And that's okay. I mean all of us if all of us did that life would be so much simpler I mean, I don't know if things like Facebook would exist because you know, the trolls would have no no place to be Exactly, but I I do know That this was important enough that we had to talk to you about it because it felt like we were just running into meeting talking to so many people that they're not I mean, they're not yet. I would say worried or thinking about their own energy field And how it affects everything and it really energy is Really important because everything at its base is energy at its base is energy And we had to talk about it from that perspective because that's where we are. That's where we work But I when you think about it this way To just remember your energy field is like your bank account You don't want to spend your your bank account all in one place and I feel rich Well, we both my bank account doesn't say that but my life does well abundance is measured in many ways

59:31 So but we we always We talk about the topics we're going to talk about every week and This one was big on the list to talk about how You really should be paying attention And you really should be you know looking at ways Where in your life? Where in your life? Can you improve? Where in your life? Can you feel better? This is I mean time is precious. Absolutely. And it is it's like we got to learn where to plug the holes because there's There is energy leaking out and the thing about it leaking out is you don't I see so many parents doing as much as they can right You know trying their best and They're depleted and they're trying to teach their kids from a place of depleting this and and I It hurts me to watch Because kids are our future Every one of us that has kids they're like They're just so precious to us and I I love being a mom and I love even more being a grandmother and I love being a human being being so I'm going to be quiet now and oh, well, I was just going to say so So uh get your energy right and then and then get your kids right Well, if we could just pay attention to them, I think they could be better teachers than we are Honestly, I think kids got they got it all figured out. I don't know why we don't listen to them more

1:00:51 I know Well, it was great talking to you today Laura about all this. I know this is something we really have been Wanting to talk about and we could probably talk all day about this actually, but I know we're both passionate about this It's an important topic, but we'll have more important topics. Absolutely. We'll be back next week If you're interested in contacting Kim for soul awakening coaching Please contact her at mksoulcoaching.com If you'd like to check out my website and everything that I do, please go to laurawarrenmedium.com