The Ups and Downs of a High Vibe Life

0:00 Hi, I'm Kim, and I'm Laura, and this is the Circle of the Sacred Flame, episode 4. Today, we're going to talk to you about all the challenges and rewards of living a high-vib life. Welcome back! Today, we're talking about the ups and downs of living a high-vib life. And we love that, by the way. Before we talk about that, I just wanted to kind of talk a little bit about energy, frequency, vibration, because we're going to talk about that a lot today. And when we talk about our energy, I think you understand this point, most of you do. That's like our auric energy, or the energy that kind of is, it's an energy form around our body.

0:51 Life force. Life force energy. But that can be measured, vibrationally, with frequency. All emotions actually have their own measured frequency. So that's why when we're manifesting, we try to stay in gratefulness, because it's a really high vibration. Attitude is the best attitude. That's right. So when we're speaking about a vibration, frequency, we're kind of using those terms like kind of interchangeably, I guess, but we are talking about the energy that is around each person. And you know, how you can, we're going to talk about how you can improve that, and what you can do about that. Well, also, like, I have a different energy than you. Yeah. You know, so even as a couple or your children, like we always can tell when the kids are home.

1:41 Laura's has a 50 50 custody with her ex. And we can always tell when the kids are coming home that there's a shift in the energy in the house. Well, I become mom. I'm in mom. True. That's another part of it. Yeah. And, and yeah, the kids bring their own, their own energy to the house too. Yeah, like when the four grandkids come over and energy definitely changes. Yeah, little kids have very high energy, especially your grandkids. Yeah. And the big love too. That's a big energy. And we work like, well, yeah, we work so hard, like as a spiritual being to have higher vibrational energy, or like some people just say good positive energy, we work so hard to do that.

2:27 And there's so many things that we have to do to get there. And it's like we not only start to change our thinking, we change our lives completely, just so that we can be in a better place. And this higher vibrational thinking and this higher vibrational actions and behavior, it creates a lot of change in your life. And we're going to talk about the ups, but we're also going to talk about the downs, the downside of having a high vibrational life. And just so that, you know, we make this clear too, that as far as the universe is concerned, there's only energy. So there's no judgment on whether the energy is good or bad. And often I think we, we kind of have a, we have a human judgment.

3:13 And so we'll say, oh, that person has negative energy. And the universe doesn't look at things that way. They look at it as its energy. And is it a high or low frequency? But there's no judgment placed on that to say like, ooh, stay away from that person. Like they have, they have really low vibes, you know. Well, because there's always something to that as well. Like sometimes people have low energy because they're ill, or they live a very stressed life, or they don't have love and connection in their life. There's lots of reasons for why. It's like, even in my field of work where I'm working on people's bodies, I have other people that will, they'll come and say they went to somebody else and they said, oh, I have a lot of negative energy. And I just say, well, I'm really sorry they said that because I don't look at things the same way.

4:02 I don't look at things as positive or negative. I just look at things like they don't always have to be good or bad. It just is what it is. It just is. And I love, I love how you always say that with your work, you always, you're tuning into somebody's energy. So you're tuning into that station. I always love that analogy because it's so true. We all have different, different frequencies. Well, that's it. And we, we can talk about it that way and understand that everyone kind of has their own radio signal. And even in spirit, they have their own radio signal and you can tune into the frequencies that you want or need. But I think the thing to understand too is that we're human and that we do have human emotions. We do have human judgment and bias.

4:48 And sometimes we are just having a really bad day. And if you're just having a really awful day, well, then you're not going to have the best energy, but that's okay. You know, it's not, it's not like this thing where we, we don't want people to be positive or feeling positive when they're not. Like we don't want to, we're not trying to force anything. That's more about awareness of it, right? So you can change it because I know myself, I know what it's like to feel depressed or to be sad or all the emotions. I know them all. I know how they all feel, but I have, I really work hard on keeping my energy up because I do have such big energy. And believe me, when it's not up as high as everybody's used to, let's just say my wife can tell when I'm, when I'm not on par.

5:34 I think everybody can tell. Yeah. Big energy. Kim's got big energy, but somebody with big energy, when they fall, it's very noticeable. So, yeah. Kim's does like kind of go through these, like cycles, like just like everybody would, but when she's down, it's really, it's very obvious. Really obvious. And I hate it. So I love having the awareness of knowing that as soon as I feel not myself, I'll be, I'll go through my checklist and say, am I in pain? And I know my wife does this too. I do this with her. Yeah, you do. Are you hungry? Are you in pain? Are you tired? That's usually the only thing I have to worry about with you is if you're hungry, because everything else usually is pretty good.

6:19 Just food for me. Just don't not feed her. Food fixes me. Yeah. So we are talking about all these things, but we want you to know that we know you're human and you're not supposed to be in a good mood every single day. No. But on this journey, we are like trying to heal, trying to do better. We're learning about who we are as a human, but as a soul being too, or maybe we're learning about our path, you know, our sole purpose. And so when you're kind of working in this self-development field, you know, and you're really thinking, okay, well, I had these things happen when I was a kid. And so I'm going to work through that and I'm going to release this pain and I'm going to let go of that problem and I'm going to forgive this person.

7:07 And it really is like a full-time job just trying to heal yourself, right? To get yourself to a good place. And so you're doing all this work on yourself. But what happens is you're working on yourself because you've decided you want to feel better. You want to do better. You want to have better relationships. You want to have a more fulfilled life. But you're so busy working on yourself that you don't notice that there's a lot of things that are changing around you until they kind of hit you. Right. So one of those things is family conflict. And I think we can, Kim and I can both speak to this. But in my experience, once you decide that you can no longer tolerate a behavior from somebody, and let's be real, like family, you're not going to just cut out your family unless some terrible things have happened.

8:01 So family is always going to be around in some way, even if they're not around a lot. But once you decide that there's certain things that you just won't have in your energy field anymore and you start setting boundaries, some people don't like it very much. At all. They do not like it? I would say that's a really nice way to say it. Yeah. Right? Well, and the other thing that happens too is... It pisses people off. Right? But you've raised your vibration. Mm-hmm. So you become like a mirror back to them, mirroring back maybe insecurities for them, maybe things they feel shameful about or guilty about because they perceive you as doing so well that then they start to question their own place in their own life.

8:48 And so they don't realize it because there's this thing that happens with family and friends when you raise your vibration, it's really a little uncomfortable, but they don't really know why. It's like kind of like the subconscious feeling. And then because they can tell that you have changed, sometimes they want you back to where you were before in your complaining, you know, negative self. They want you back to that. And it's because it makes them feel more comfortable. Well, it's like, how dare you change? I want you to stay the way you are. Exactly. The way you were because then I don't have to change. Right. That's a big deal, I think. So you get all these kind of like tensions and conflicts. So you're trying to enforce boundaries. People are acting strangely around you because they're saying you're different, you changed, you know.

9:35 And they're not, some people aren't seeing all the good that is coming around you. All the nice feelings you, you know, all the progress you've made, all the nice feelings you give other people. Like I don't, I think there are people that are struggling themselves. And instead of them taking responsibility for their own struggles, it's easier to put it out and blame it on other people. Absolutely. So you might find this as you're like, you're doing all the healing work. And I know Kim and I like for years and years, like you're reading books and you're taking courses and you're doing all the affirmations and the mantras. I think I have like 74 audibles.

10:20 Yeah. And bookcases of books. Oh yeah. So never ending. This is the thing where on the path and you're constantly trying to improve and be better within yourself. And then the people around you start to get a little squirrely. And I think it goes hand in hand, right? Because not only do you want to like feel better energetically, it kind of, you start to eat differently. You like, Laura and I don't drink and believe me, we love red wine. We used to drink. That was like our normal weekend thing, right? If you're adopting a high vibe life, you better be ready to let go of some things. It's not easy. It's not easy. We're getting so sensitive and we would have a drink of wine here and there.

11:07 And I don't think we've had a drink in a few months. And even what we've had this year, it would be very, we could count it on one hand. And we loved it before. But I think you start really realizing is this a habit? What's this behavior about? Why are we doing it? Because we started looking at it saying, well, this is expensive and it's doing nothing for us. And it was a celebration. Because let's be honest, when we're happy, you eat like what makes you happy. You have your snacks and you have your drinking and your whatever. But then you get to a place where you really enjoy being quiet. Oh, and we were really happy.

11:52 It was about kind of like a usual thing. It's a social thing. You're having a good time. You celebrate. You get a bottle of wine. But what happened was I started to notice that it became sort of like a coping mechanism. Like, oh my God, today's terrible. I can't wait to go home and have a glass of wine. But what happened was I wasn't really dealing with the feelings that were coming up. I wasn't really dealing. I'm just sidestepping them, sidestepping them. And so finally I just realized that what I needed to do was deal with how I was feeling in the moment. So with whatever was happening, I would allow myself to deal with it, process it and then let it go. And then usually any urge that I had to drink was gone. So it's not like we were heavy drinkers.

12:39 But we enjoyed it. It was a weekend thing, you know. But now it's not something that's even in my, it's not in my field anymore, meaning it's not in my awareness as something to go to. It's like we've kind of trained ourselves away from it. It's not appealing. There's nothing, there's no draw. And all that was about for me, and I'm just saying for me, I think it would be me too. But I'm not saying this for other people because everybody's got their own stuff. But for us, we realized that it wasn't about what we thought it was. It wasn't necessarily about having fun and celebration. It became avoidance.

13:24 It became distraction. It became not dealing with what was happening. And then those things that you don't deal with, they don't go away. They just pile up. So it's hard in the beginning because you're really sorting through a lot of things. And this could happen with food. This could happen with shopping. This could happen with many other things in your life. But for us, it was a realization that where does the urge come from? Where does the thought come from that we need to go get a bottle of wine or something? And then once we figured out where the urge and the thought came from, it's like no urge, no desire. But we even weaned ourselves in a way because like I know me in the summer, there's nothing I used to love more the refreshingness of like a gin and tonic with lime.

14:11 So we started making virgin drinks at first. So we'd say, well, why? Because we'd ask ourselves, why do we even do the liquor part if we don't really like the way it makes us feel? So we did. We started having like virgin cocktails and it was very few and far between. But I do remember we'd have like a tonic water and lime. But then even that it became, oh, look at the tonic water, look at the sugar in it. So you just keep changing. When you're looking for this high vibe and once you have it, it's like you don't want to go back. And you know, you got to leave a lot behind you because, you know, I can say this, that this has happened to both of us, that we had friends, family, that we absolutely, we still love them. But I think when you have to choose what kind of environment you want to be in, you just can't stay in that environment for very long.

15:03 So visits become quicker and... Well, between Kim and I, we had our little signals. If we went to visit family and things weren't going well, we had a signal that we would just get up and go. We just say, oh, thank you for the visit and leave if things were kind of going sideways. But I can't tell you like how many times I heard from people, oh, you changed. But it's funny because... Not like, oh, you changed. Yeah, no. But I have to say, I got both. Like, I got the nicer comment too because some people said, oh my gosh, like you just seem so much more comfortable in your skin. You just seem so happy, you're glowing. I got the compliments too. But from the people that really probably weren't in a great place in their own lives or in their own heads, I got, ew, you've changed.

15:53 You know, like that kind of thing. And I got really good at just saying, yeah, I did. Just leave it at that. I did change. Thank you for noticing. Just think about it though. If you go into a room, I know my clients, a lot of the times I have clients that will literally say to me, oh my God, I just love seeing you. I love having a treatment by you. Could you just come follow me around? Because they'll say when they leave, they feel so good, so high vibrational. But then when they're out in the world living their normal day-to-day life, they'll literally tell me that they'll remember the way they felt when they left my treatment room. And I try to tell them, well, you're getting this little taste of being in a space that's safe and you can talk about whatever you need to talk about and release.

16:44 And think about releasing. Think about when you've had a really good day and you come home and you're just so excited it's oozing out of you. But then everybody in your house could be like, ugh, right? They all had terrible days. You even learn how to talk to them to bring them up. One thing I always did with my kids and I have to tell you, I'm gonna, every day I said to my kids before they went to school I'd say have a good day. And I meant it. Because I wanted them to identify with before they started their day I wanted to say, I, as your mom I want you out into the world in a positive way. So I always wanted them to go to school feeling that I cared and that I was connecting and checking them with them and when they came home that was something that we did.

17:34 Now I'm gonna talk about my son because my son has four kids my daughter doesn't. So it's, that's the only reason I'm using this. You know, he's got four kids and I see him all the time saying to his kids, how's your day guys? How's your day? Or the people you love is to pay attention to them to say, hey how was your day? Yeah, really like getting getting connected with people and being present is so important. Absolutely. The one thing that can happen, like that I one thing I like is what Kim said. Kim said, you know, when you're living a higher vibrational life you can bring people up to your level as long as they want to be there. Sometimes they don't, but I love that that whole idea of you can enter a room and shift the energy more in your direction, you know.

18:24 But we have to talk with the opposite too. Absolutely. Because what I found was I would be feeling great, having a great day and then you're around somebody who probably somebody you love because you probably wouldn't do this for somebody you didn't love but you're around somebody who's maybe not having a great day or week or month and you feel yourself come down to where they are to make it more comfortable. So you can feel your vibration kind of coming down and then you start saying things that you don't really like or that isn't really the person you've become it's like you're the old version of you so that you can have like a bitch-fest with this person, you know. And that happens too but being aware of it really helps so when you're aware that it's happening and you can kind of snap yourself out of it but that's the thing about this taking the high road really and having that higher vibration it does make things a little bit uncomfortable with people who aren't ready to be there with you. Absolutely.

19:26 I agree. And sometimes it's so hard once you get past that place where you know, you're hanging out with whoever, the house is full and the conversations keep going to places that you don't really like to go. Let's be honest, politics or religion, there are always two that people say stay away from but people have their own opinions on things and they're allowed to have them. I think that's one of the greatest gifts I've learned through being with you is that now I have the space all the time, 24-7 I have the space to just be myself where I don't feel like I had that choice before and we're together all the time we work for ourselves we're home in the house I'll be down in my office, you're up in yours and then we kind of come together at lunch and different things throughout the day but one of the things we always do is we always check in with ourselves because I don't want to bring any negative energy into our home. I don't want to bring any negative energy into our relationship or the kids life or my kids. So we're always very careful and I think once you build that muscle you really you learn that even in smaller crowds you can change the conversation

20:42 For the most part now there's some people that are so headstrong and they just want to talk negative and talk about all the really hard stuff but we've gotten to a place where we can we'll stop talking and give people cues that we're not going to we're not participating it's just not fun and you don't have to give your energy to that kind of thing either so it's that presentness and awareness in the moment like I don't really like the way this is going and I just don't think I'm going to engage much with this person so that kind of brings me to another point of how we can lose friends and this is really hard because a lot of people that feel like they walk a spiritual path they walk alone or with very little people around them and I just have to say about this that yes as you improve yourself and they lose some people along the way but it's because they can't keep up with you like they can't stay where you are and it really is a testament to whether you have a good friend or not because if you have a really good friend who loves you then they're going to want you to be your best self and anybody that doesn't want that they are the people that you don't need in your life anymore

21:58 Because remember you're moving forward with a higher vibration so you can't take everybody with you not everybody is going to be able to go and it's sad and it's hard sometimes because some friendships end in big blow ups or whatever or very hurtful points or betrayal or lying but the thing to know is that the universe is trying to protect you from the relationship or being hurt further going forward and I've had some major relationships end in my life that I thought these people I thought at one point that we'd be friends forever you know and then to come around to these like very fantastic blow ups you know and realize that I tried so hard to be good to them you know to love them you tried way harder than I would have and most people probably wouldn't last as long as I did but then in the end when things completely blow up or are dismantled the trust has to be there from the universe to trust that those people aren't meant to walk your path with you they're not meant to be there and this is really in your highest good to move forward

23:14 That's why they say the high roads usually the lonelier road but it's okay because you don't have as many people trying to dig at you and hurt you I think it's lonelier in the beginning but one thing I can attest to is that I didn't really like I have all my life known who I was to whatever degree my understanding was at that time and I've always been happy same thing different levels of happy I have never in my life felt this happy and I think one of the things and that's all because of me yes I don't think I realized I could just be myself and I am a nut I love happy, I love being I love food and I love cooking and I love growing things and I probably drive my wife half crazy sometimes yes because I know how to do so many things and I love to do I just love loving things I love planting vegetables and herbs and nothing makes me happier than when we're cooking and I can just run outside and grab stuff and it feeds me but that's the thing on the upside of the high vibe life is that you begin to fall

24:30 Into healthier patterns you fall into the place where it fits for you it's in your true nature and I don't know about you but I find that even though there's not as many people I still attract really good people in my life oh absolutely we have an amazing friend group and we have amazing people in our lives so we've attracted all those people to us because of who we are what we're doing and all that and they're beautiful people but I do find that I'm okay with being by myself too that's what I was going to say that's been the biggest gift is that I think I really through having the space to be who I am and to be loved for it thank you very much I really start to notice more and more about who I am and I love myself way more than what I ever did before because again you have the space, you have the awareness I'm like the hopeless romantic so I also have that side of me where I love to do things for my wife that she loves and sometimes that's just cleaning the kitchen I'll take a clean kitchen any day and sometimes it's going out we're the type of people that we're very aware of how we're feeling and we know

25:46 What we're doing like this time of the year there's so much going on and we always say we need a break, we need a break from people we need a break from sometimes the house which we love but if we're here we're working because we do so many different things but I think the biggest thing for me is the more awareness you have and the more you give yourself the love and the space that you need to do whatever it is you want to do is your cup I personally don't like it when my cup's not my cup is usually so full it's overflowing all the time and I like that feeling so for me if I just went to half full that would be a little bit like I feel distracted and I feel a little off balance oh you feel so deprived well some of these other things that happen when you're high vibrational some people might take this as positive it's not necessarily a bad thing but we'll talk about this anyway because I know Kim and I have really had a hard time with the news and with certain shows like series that you watch and things so we've actually we've tried so hard because we're so sensitive now and we've tried so hard to watch some popular

27:02 TV shows and it's just not happening for us and sometimes we simple start a series so it's like oh my god I can't watch it anymore it's too stressful and I love this because I'm like the 6 foot tall big woman and Laura is like a regular size woman and 5, 6 so I'm like this big brawly tough woman and I am you should see me watching TV because literally it would look hilarious to most people I got my hands in front of my face I'm going oh god no even the sound I'm like I can't get past Laura goes don't look don't look it's not good she'll tell me when I can look we don't watch a lot of those shows because Kim but it's not even bad stuff no I know it's just like somebody being treated the wrong way or somebody rough housing somebody or somebody like you know I can't handle it when people get hurt on TV shows it's like I feel it in my own body and I'm like I'm way too much of an empath to watch the show oh I am so bad so that could be seen as a really good change where you're not putting a lot of junk in your in your head in your environment

28:18 But I find even people when people come to our home that's been a boundary we've set with family and friends anybody that comes over we don't like fighting or conflict or tension or gossiping so we've put kind of like boundaries around people and said you know like I appreciate your upset right now but you can't do that here that we don't do that in our house and it because the energy is so hard it feels like daggers it feels like it's hurting you it's stabbing you but that's a beautiful thing to be aware of like hypothetical two people come over they start arguing with each other and they're being mean to each other isn't it great that we can be in a place where we can go wow because really that's quite minor compared to some of the stuff so it's a big shift to be at that place where you can set boundaries in your home so that you can say listen we love you however this isn't how we operate and we would really appreciate it and these aren't the words we're saying but this is the way our actions would be with friends and family yeah we just appreciate that we keep the environment clean and then that's the other part of saying speaking of clean something happens to you when you are

29:34 You're doing your grounding you're doing your spiritual practice you're meditating you're exercising you're eating good you got better friends you know and something happens to you where you go oh my god I can't stand disorganization or clutter big time big time we just it was funny we were having friends over last night and we've been really busy and our house is not like nowhere is near dirty but just the clutter like not putting everything away in the kitchen or having things around we really feel how it affects us and we try to teach this to the kids too to say you know you're going to feel a lot better if your room is tidy and you don't have all that clutter it's a real thing everything has energy everything carries energy so when people say to me oh I've just I've been throwing things out I'm becoming like more minimalist I'm like good for you clear all the extra junk out of your vibration out of your environment and give it to somebody who needs it do a double duty and you're going to feel so much better you're going to feel so much better so the other the other thing that I noticed especially with us is that we avoid even driving and rush our traffic now

30:50 We avoid shopping at busy times we don't do a lot of large events even going to a movie theater is sometimes a big challenge but I mean somebody could argue that all these things are just for the changes for the better it just makes it a little bit more makes it harder makes it a little bit more difficult when we have to go somewhere in rush hour traffic or we have to go to a busy store but sometimes you have to and then it's just terrible you do not want to be there but I know Kim's energy is big and we'll be driving in rush hour traffic and she can look ahead and gauge all the drivers and say that one's going to turn that way and that one's going to go this way and well that one's in a bad mood and that one's an old lady who's driving too slow and then like she feels it all so can you imagine how much information just information alone coming into your energy field all the time is overwhelmed well and let's be honest I lived in the country for most of my life my adult life and then I was in which is a very nice community and then I moved to Halifax six years ago

32:06 And I'm not joking no exaggeration we would go out because Laura and her kids would be going out to get stuff or like a sports game and I would start whatever this before I don't remember having a lot of anxiety when I was younger I could have it in periods like something big going on absolutely but we would be out and I would start having anxiety and I mean heart palpitations my chest and I was going what is happening to me almost like something foreign jumped in and was taking over my body it was that drastic for me and Laura would look at me and say you're having an anxiety attack and I go no I don't have anxiety ha ha yes I did and honestly I do not go out in Halifax when I don't have to not in the weekends, sorry I know that's usually up to me if there's an emergency and if I have to go get groceries and go to three places no problem I'm doing it Monday to Thursday morning and I'll stock up so I don't have to go back out feel everybody

33:22 We just got home we had to go to Home Depot and pick up lights for the garage and I walked past a lady with a little dog and immediately got a stabbing pain a stabbing headache and it was almost like I could feel her stress like she's super nervous about having this dog and I didn't talk to her I didn't know what was going on but I knew it was her because I got this stabbing pain in my head and then I walked past and I asked myself was that mine or was that hers and I got right away it was hers and immediately it was gone so that's the other side of this too is that if you're an empath or a highly sensitive person to energy, to emotions, whatever and you're out in public on 10, 15 different people and it might have nothing to do with you so that's a really good thing to remember. Absolutely and the other thing is we don't want to make it sound like oh we can't do anything anymore we're so sensitive we can still do anything we did before the difference is why would you make it harder on yourself than you need to by eating foods that are making you sicker or drinking or being out you don't want to hang around with people

34:38 From interests as you do I think we're just more selective absolutely and aware but being in a place of discernment is really important it's important to maintain your energy too you could give away too much of your energy if you're doing all this stuff you don't want to do right well I always had this you know I might even said this on another podcast but when you wake up in the morning I love to wake up happy and I like to go to be happy it's a ritual I do every day and sometimes it's easier to do than others but I always am happy it might not be 100% I might be tired or sore or whatever but you know you think about everyone's day to day life what do you do you get up and you take a shower and you get your breakfast and you get ready for work and you go to work and same thing when you get home you got another thing to do but if we're aware that you know it's our day to day life we're used to it but it's kind of one of those things that if you're given $100 of energy in the morning and you're in the shower and all you're doing is stressing out people don't get in the shower and think about all the great things I mean there's some people but if we had to do the percentage you'd be baffled because most

35:54 People are stressing about the day they're stressing about what they've got to pick up and what they got to do after work yeah if you were broke you're in the minus before you get out of the house exactly oh my god if you were me when I was when I was teaching in the public school and usually by the time I got out of the shower I had stressed myself so much I was surprised my hair wasn't falling out but it's all the thoughts about like oh my gosh will that kid come today and we'll have to deal with him again oh what about that teacher that was upset with me because I left the door unlocked or like oh my gosh I have to drive and it's really busy this morning oh my gosh I just heard on the radio there's an accident how am I going to get through the amount of thoughts of worry and stress and fear that people have before they even start their day right and you do have a sacred energy a sacred life for us to protect here this isn't just you give all your energy away and you get it all back you do have to work pretty hard sometimes now before we move from the kind of downside of the high vibe life I just wanted to quickly say that this could also be viewed as a positive thing

37:10 But you might realize that your job doesn't match you anymore or that there's nothing in your job you can find that makes you feel good some people it kind of flips them into a different awareness of seeing all the things with their job that match them and that they like they check they get to live the way they want even though they don't love necessarily their job they love that their job gives them the opportunity to own a home in a car that could be a realization but if you find yourself in a place where you just realize I can't do this work anymore soul sucking you know too it's almost like I say when a marriage ends you know it's done with a job you just know and I have had so many clients say I don't know what happened to me but my boss was talking about this this and this and I just I just blurted it out I'm done I'm leaving in two weeks sometimes you just know so just to say if that happens as you're on your road of raising your vibration and healing and feeling better again that job wasn't meant for you and it wasn't in your highest good

38:26 In the first place well it's funny because I've always loved working no matter what I can honestly say that every job I've ever had I liked it because it gave me freedom that money created freedom for me now I've liked jobs better like the job I do right now I love I could do it but I can remember working at you know like what do you call it like a retail store and I was putting barbecues together and I get called to work in different departments and I loved it I went to work I was happy because I choose happy I like the way that it feels to me I don't like you do have to choose it and that's the thing there's so many good things about being in a high vibration and even just the perspective shift if you feel like this is all coming about in your life because you're having a breakdown breakthrough I would offer you I would offer you that word breakthrough you're breaking through old patterns and behaviour this is not a breakdown this is a breakthrough and we need to have those moments we are human

39:42 Humans are stubborn we don't change unless we have to if you feel like you have to change because you've had a breakthrough then I am really proud of you and I think you should move forward and try to change the things you need to and it's not easy life is not easy it's beautiful and it's like I always said that as a kid I struggled in school I was lucky if I was a C average kid but I had a lot of other things on my mind in school and now as an adult if I was in school today I would be a geek because I love information but I love a certain kind of information I love to know how the world works and how we're connected to this big energy that we call source energy and that everything is possible when we're in that state of mind oh my gosh yes and this is it we have developed Kim and I both an appreciation for nature and for life that we never had before it's really hard for me to kill spiders now I can't and we have a lot of spiders around us I gotta like pick them up and take them outside and even flies I'm like shooing flies outside if I can not all the time but if it's a mosquito though

40:58 It's me or them they're going down I get it but most other things we say but we're so careful and we've had we've had birds fly into the windows here and some of them make it some of them don't but we like immediately Kim is right there giving the bird rakey we've tried so hard around the property to keep plants happy and like Kim's moved them if she's needing to move them this year I put it more posts that said I'm stupid happy this year but it's because I literally have like a red crawler's worms a little farm that I feed the worms and then their castings are good for the soil and I would be outside this year I spent a lot of time alone and I'm telling you it was so valuable for me because number one I lost my mom last fall and it was hard for me because every day she'd call me or I call her and I miss that so I just talked to her in the air like she's there with me all the time so I'd be outside and I'm growing things and I have a few areas of the property that I have raised beds and one of the areas is really excessively hot and things were literally burning right out of the ground so I would hear spirit tell me you know like you got to move this it's not doing well here or this soil is too acidic or whatever

42:14 And I'm so grateful that I pay attention because I really saved a lot of plants this year and it saved me because I feel terrible when I'm not paying attention and something died that bugs me I don't want that and what a gift it is to be in the present moment and to be able to just see this because do you know how many people they go through their daily life like everything's a blur they're just trying to get through in survival mode and this is the other gift of being in a more peaceful vibration or a higher vibration is you do get to pay attention you do get to tune into these things and one thing I know that happened to me with one of the big awakenings I had was I had this craving to go out and watch sunsets and sunrises and also to gaze at the moon I just I would need it like crave it or to go and look at the stars and so some of these connections like with our world and with our earth this beautiful planet we live on the connections become stronger and stronger and you just feel like you almost you need it yeah you do yeah and I can always tell when for me because we always pay attention to each other and you'll watch me and observe me and know when I need something and I do the same for you

43:30 And there's lots of times I'll say at night time you know we're kind of going through the day and I'll be like we got to go to the beach what do you do in tomorrow and if you're not working we'll be like okay we're going to the beach because the salt air is good for us walking in the sand bare feet and we do that like November it's been I've done we've I've got pictures of February so it doesn't matter what time of the year is if the beach is accessible then we're on it and we might not both have our bare feet in the sand um you know depends how cold it is I love this because I'll swim in the ocean and I'm in a bathing suit I get out of the ocean it could have been December February it doesn't matter and there's Laura I got this cute picture of her with like two pairs of pants on yeah two jackets and fur all around her face where you can't hardly see her face right squished all in and she's looking at me and she goes aren't you cold and like nope mittens not yet and winter boots yes yeah and I'm staying there in my bathing suit so quiet but I think I get cold later yeah she's it comes out of me later when I'm home she's the later person yeah um yeah that's that's the thing we've we've really um through our own journey and where we've come from and we've just re sort of

44:46 Reconnected with the things that are maybe simpler maybe people see it as a simpler life but just feels better for us um it's this thing like now I feel like we wake up grateful we don't have to work hard on it anymore it's not like you have to convince yourself or do all those like corny mantras where you're like I'm so grateful I'm so grateful that my car broke down today I'm so grateful that I have no groceries you know like you don't have to do that anymore you don't have to try to fool yourself I still laugh at the you know when you get to this place where I think I honestly feel rich I don't know about you but I feel rich and my bank account doesn't doesn't always reflect that but I really do feel rich lately and especially this year I think I always do to a certain degree but it's almost to a place where I look at my life and go I'm so grateful that I get to be me and to be a person who has put the time in to having an awareness that I can choose how I want to feel and in some moments I feel like crying but I'll be like okay well there's something that's got to be released

46:02 So I'm just going to let myself cry or laugh or scream I know there was lots of times I was alone in cuspand before I moved here because we were going back and forth Lauren and I have been going back and forth for ten years because I still work in New Brunswick and it's funny you know it's all energy it doesn't matter what we're talking about but you know I'd be getting a little bit sooky and being like oh god when's it going to get easier when do I have to like not be able to go back and forth and carry all this stuff because my car is loaded down then one day it hit me and I thought I'm so grateful look I've been doing this for six years going back and forth making a living in another province and being able to see my kids my grandkids and our friends and it's all perspective it's all turning things around and looking at them from another angle where you can say wow but it's all awareness and it's all energetic awareness because again everything is energy so when you really start paying attention it's not that you stop caring it's not that you stop loving but it's like you love yourself more and you can't no longer except other people's

47:18 You know I'm just going to be me yeah they're pain and they're bullshit sorry I hate to be the person but that's me but you can't do it anymore and you just say you know what I love myself so much that I'm not putting myself in that position or I'm not watching that kind of TV or I'm not listening for me I'm very sensitive to even music I like music that makes me happy and makes me feel like dancing I don't want to be sad there's enough things in the world to be sad about and I always joke with my wife and I always say I don't put shit in my head I don't want in there so I don't know as much about the world as my wife because she is far more articulate in her like her words and her understanding than I am but it's because I guess one of us needs to know what's going on in the world but I will not I can't but I think we're a balance I think you know the things that I don't well and you don't watch negative stuff but you do know more about what's going on in the world and I'm grateful that you know but I am just somebody who I know myself and I know that I can't control it I can't do anything about it

48:34 So to me it's like people come in I have amazing clients but I didn't always have amazing clients I had some that were not so much fun to be around and now I would say that I can't tell you one client that I have I'm not excited that they're coming to see me but that's what happens because it's like your vibration at a higher place it broadcasts further and further so you are attracting people to you that match you at a much higher rate you are in a good place and all these other things happen why would we not want better quality people in our life or better relationships better food why would we not want a change in our career if that's what's best for us or why would we not want a clearer focus more focus on our actual purpose so these are all side effects of the high vibrational life and we wanted to talk about good and bad but there's so much good you also get like it builds you up so that you have the courage to sometimes just look at somebody and say what is it you need right now what's going on what can we do to make you feel better

49:50 So that puts and it puts you in a place where you can help where maybe you couldn't before the really cool thing about this is earlier you were talking about abundance and I think what happens in the good feelings like the gratitude, joy and bliss we have less resistance to good things coming to us so that's a real thing it creates this flow it's like where you might have had blockages before like you might have had fear about this or that and trust me whether you have a little bit of money people still stress about money they'll stress about having too much what to do with it they'll stress about losing it if they have too much people will stress about not having money not being able to pay bills you can choose you can choose not to be stressed about those things and since Kim and I have been working in this direction like working on this and Kim's already there it's really me working on it but since I have been working on my kind of abundance codes there's been so much flow

51:06 In my life that it feels like my new mantra is I'll always have what I need because sometimes there's like a crazy bill coming up and I'm like not really enough money in my account but then something will happen and I'll get more work some money will come to me and there's always flow and I've always looked after and I feel like Kim can say the same thing that we just trust that we're going to have what we need and we're going to have enough and it always seems to come through it doesn't mean we don't work very hard we do work hard but there is a truth to what you're saying where if you're fearful and you're thinking that this is going to happen there's a really good chance that it will because you have to think about energy thinking exactly what you're afraid of and if you can take those blocks out like I always say that especially this year, 2025 has been an incredible incredible year for me on a soul level on just knowing how I want to live because I've been able to a lot more than I did before I can do more of the things I love and I have more time and space and I have more

52:22 Confidence that it's okay to take that time to go do that thing gardening is crazy expensive and time consuming and you don't get let's be honest you're not saving money I've spent a fortune but I have never put money into something that made me happier than gardening so this is the thing you begin to become a very content and self assured person when you're in the higher vibrations of feeling and thinking and being but don't you find even sorry I didn't mean to interrupt you there even before you look externally for that feeling so go buying a new thing I mean it could be a couch it could be just an outfit but you look to buy things to give you that feeling of reward of stability of whatever it is you're looking for but I would say and I think you'd agree with me it's not that we just got done renovating a five bedroom two bath house but we really don't need as much as we thought we did

53:38 And we have so much more well that's it you just I feel like letting go of fear of the things that bring your energy down creating better relationships you're expending less energy on things that you don't have to things that you lose energy on just all around things continuously improve when you're making the small choices every day to better yourself and the simplifying your life puts everything into focus like what are your priorities what are the things you want to do it just clearly helps you categorize your life in a way that you start to do only the things that are important to you that you love things that you want to invest in and then it just keeps feeding you it just keeps filling you up and I know like somebody said about me ran into like an old teacher or something like years ago and she said she said oh I remember you and you always had such a quiet confidence and I really had to think about that because I just thought I was shy like I don't really think I was confident at all but I think what it is is there was a piece of me that I always knew who I was

54:54 And so I didn't have to broadcast it or tell people or scream it out loud it just I just knew who I was and I didn't need to fit in with the crowd I didn't need to have anybody's approval in fact I was pretty much called the weird kid all the time so if I had a nickel for every time somebody called me weird but I just didn't it didn't really phase me I was just doing my own thing and I think that's important it's an important place to start if you don't feel very confident about who you are and you don't like who you are and you want to have a better life you want to have a higher vibrational life I think that's the perfect place to start and that is a really good point because what I've observed that's from some of the friends and relationships that I've left behind is that in those relationships I didn't feel like I had the same space to be myself so you're kind of mimicking everybody around you and when you start realizing that because a lot of what we talked about today there's some things that they're really hard and some things are a lot easier but everything is hard until it's not you know everything is

56:10 What it is until you have a new perspective of looking at that and feeling about it because that's one of the things I love about my personality is I've often been the person that I can see things from multiple different angles and I know my ex used to get mad at me all the time he'd say why won't you take my side I said well you should be grateful that I don't think you're right I just be quiet I'm not pointing out your faults or that I just don't say anything but I'm the type of person I can't lie to save my soul and even Laura knows if it's something that I'm really feeling strong about I just will not say anything because I'm not going to start a fight but I know who I am I know what I'm okay with I know what I'm not going to go backwards because I love the way it feels I mean you're standing on a mountain looking out at all this beautiful landscape and you're letting yourself go and you're looking down at all the different colors of the trees and oh look at the way that the river bends around there and look at that meadow I'm sorry but that is me

57:26 I love to go to the beach and I love to watch the sky change say I'm sorry I just can't help being that person and that's what I love and it brings more joy to my life constantly day after day and we live in a beautiful place and I so love when Laura's youngest will come upstairs and he'll go whoa look at the sky look at that sunset because he listened to us year after year and you're teaching people don't be you because by being you you're showing other people it's okay to be excited about things that some people think are just everyday things well we don't pay attention enough to the beauty that is us and that is all around us and I'm sorry I get this way at the end of a podcast where I really want to nail it home get out there and look at sunsets and sunrises walk the beach everybody's so busy when we go home to New Brunswick one of the first things we do with my grandkids is for them and they are so excited they're like we was coming we're going to the beach because we take them outside kids are stuck in the house they're stuck on devices their energy I would go crazy inside myself Laura knows

58:42 In the wintertime and I don't have the gardening I gotta do something so I'm building shit I'm making stuff I have to be creative in whatever way I can and that can sometimes be coloring well it sounds like what you're saying is be present be present your energy is fed or drained by every single thing around you and we're not uptight people we're not like oh we're too good for this and that no no that's not what we're saying we're saying we are we own who we are and when we're around and hostile environment we're like that's not for us we're okay we're going to pass yeah and so I really feel like it's so worth it to continue your healing continue trying to be the best person you can be or maybe achieve some goals go after your desires in this life it's so worth it because you'll keep your energy where it needs to be for you to continuously be fed instead of doing things that don't fit you don't match you and then drain drain drain so I love what Kim said because where where can you be filled up you know where can

59:58 You improve that vibration nature will offer it to you every single time at no cost zero cost and you know it's funny there's always these things it's fall it's October it's like the harvest moon right and one of my favorite memories my dad was busy a lot he I didn't you know I didn't get to spend a lot of time with him but one of the things that we did every fall that I will never forget and I do it myself is we always drove down around like Fredrickton area so all like the the farming areas and we get we go to those stands and we buy all the fresh produce we still do that we and I grow all this stuff but you know yesterday we were down or the day before we were down the salt area at the spa for the whole day and on our way back we hit noggins and I filled up on peaches and and pairs and plums and apples and I can't tell you how happy that stuff makes me but I mean think about a fresh peach you don't get them all all through the year but man when you get them it's so good it just it fills you up so there's so many ways to fill you up there's so many ways to increase your energy I mean I love I've always loved the elderly

1:01:14 And there's nothing that's cuter than watching a little elderly couple watch hand in hand down the street or the beach it just makes me happy that's it and just things that make you happy things that fill you up pay attention to those more remember that your breakdowns are not breakdowns their breakthroughs and it's important they're trying to teach you something to teach you about the path you should take and living high vibe life has a lot of rewards and just those few little things that change they're changing for the better and I think when you are in this mode you just have to try to remember that that everything is changing for the better absolutely and I just one thing before we say goodbye I know there's a lot of really hard stuff on social media and on the news and all that stuff I you know I ask you to test yourself stay away from it for a little while and see how your energy comes back and fills up because we can't control it and jumping on the bandwagon good or bad isn't going to help again one of my things go tos are I disconnect I send them love I don't care who it is I don't care

1:02:30 If it's the orange man down below us it's like I just send love because the world is unapologetically itself there's lots of things happening we can't control it but the best way to counteract all that energy is to be happy and to do things that bring you joy because it raises your vibration and you're feeding something positive instead of something negative because all the stuff that's on the news I'm sorry but we don't put good stories on there and it's it's just a way of being now that the only way to save yourself and save your kids is you gotta get away from it go do something as a family go apple picking right so go love your life and go get out there yep that's it go love life go love life and we'll see you next week if you're interested in contacting Kim for Soul Awakening Coaching please contact her at mksoulcoaching.com if you'd like to check out my website and everything that I do go to laurawarrenmedium.com